Togetherness.

Married couple's who go everywhere together - who don't have any interests/friends of their own.

I know a couple like this. They don't have/need/want any friends and their only son lives in France. They are absolutely devoted to each other.

One of them will die before the other.

How would the one left behind make his/her life even tolerable without any friends/family around?

It doesn't bear thinking about.

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Oh my, how sad. It's all about love today.
Time to put up a new thread from me.
Hi Carol are you good today?
Sweetie x

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I agree Carol. It's not healthy, IMO, not to have outside friends or interests. And yes, upon the death of one of them, who will the surviving spouse turn to for comfort and support?

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Jazzi....that's what families are for, we are blessed with wonderful children, their spouses and their children too.
When you have a good family then outside friends are nice but unimportant.

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I consider myself to be extremely lucky. My wife and I are still devoted to each other after 54 years of marriage. We have a huge family which includes 8 grandchildren and 6 great grandchildren. A great many close friends some of whom we met when our kids started school in the 60s. We all meet as often as possible through the year and on special occasions. As to friends being unimportant, I wonder if they feel the same about you Malcolm?

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My husband and I have always done our own thing as we are very different people; we don't have anything in common apart from our children. I don't think our marriage would have survived if we had lived in each other's pockets.

It is harder for my husband to do all he would like to do now, as due to the devastating brain damage he sustained after a subarachnoid haemorrhage in 2006 he is unable to drive, which curtails his activities. I do drive him to places from time to time, and so do our girls.

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Tarantula, Do you tell your husband that you love him?

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So if it's only the children that you have in common, may I ask what made you stay together before the children existed? In fact, what made you marry even, if you were so different and had nothing whatsoever in common?

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Everybody knows that opposites can attract.

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I think we were fascinated by each other when we met, when he was nearly 18 and I was 15. He was highly intelligent and very different to any boy I had ever come across. I have now come to the conclusion he has Asperger's syndrome, like our grandson, they are so alike. He had never come across a girl like me before, my family was very different to anything he had encountered. As he came from the UK we only saw each other during school and university hols. My father had four daughters to dispose of and was happy to get rid of them to any guy with prospects! We married four years after we met, and put into practise the game plan we had set out before we married, much of it we have achieved. Although very different it is a marriage of equals, he doesn't treat me as the little woman, thank goodness! We suit each other and that is fine by us.