13-05-2017, 10:48 AM
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Re: Attention seekers
Originally Posted by TessA
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Well said Meg!It's sometimes easier to talk to "strangers" about things rather than close friends or family, you get a different view from those not personally involved, which can help you sorts problems out.
that is very true and without mentioning any names those of us who have been here some time will remember those people diagnosed with illnesses who did not wish to tell their families but needed to tell someone so shared their sad news with us.
13-05-2017, 11:26 AM
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Re: Attention seekers
Originally Posted by Meg
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Who is to decide which people are 'attention seekers' and who genuinely needs a bit of support all be it from strangers online. For me the 'saddos' are those who are quick to judge and don't posses the ability to empathise with others..
They tell us that cancer is a lonely illness, and believe me it is! Most people have friends and family that love them...but they can never understand what having cancer is like unless they have been through it themselves. Since my diagnosis 6 years ago, I have chatted to many people online and it gives them hope when chatting to somebody who has beaten it. They can discuss the good bits and the bad bits, because they know you will understand.
An old school friend was told her cancer was likely to be terminal, but I encouraged her to fight on, now the tumours she had have shrunk... giving her a longer life. She tells me that she can't talk to anyone else about it, but I understand so she needs me.
If somebody needs some psychological help, surely it is better to give a few minutes of your time, than to laugh and call them "saddos". Always remember that, one day, it could be you who needs help
13-05-2017, 11:33 AM
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Re: Attention seekers
Originally Posted by Knockoutblow
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Don't know about every one else but I hate them, you know the ones people who tell complete strangers on the Internet about all the woes and these complete strangers saying oh come on x your to hard on yourself,or oh babe your so beautiful you don't need to worryMaybe it's me,
But really do these people think they have real true friends on the Internet.
People they have never met.
Are these people lacking real friends and are lonely?
Get a real life saddos
13-05-2017, 11:36 AM
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Re: Attention seekers
I tune out when people go on about their ailments, just as no doubt people would if I listed the things that are causing me pain at present. I have noticed in real life it is the people who are genuinely suffering the most, who tend not to burden others with their problems.
13-05-2017, 12:28 PM
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Re: Attention seekers
Originally Posted by Knockoutblow
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Don't know about every one else but I hate them, you know the ones people who tell complete strangers on the Internet about all the woes and these complete strangers saying oh come on x your to hard on yourself,or oh babe your so beautiful you don't need to worryMaybe it's me,
But really do these people think they have real true friends on the Internet.
People they have never met.
Are these people lacking real friends and are lonely?
Get a real life saddos
Loneliness can be viewed as an illness and it hastens many deaths. I am sure that many on here suffer loneliness at times, although few would admit it. Circumstances of life make people lonely, but it doesn't mean they are not worthwhile people because many are intelligent and interesting. I just think it is sad to look down on people, just because they aren't having life as easy as you are, so trying to get a little attention from friends on the internet
13-05-2017, 12:35 PM
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Re: Attention seekers
Originally Posted by Knockoutblow
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Don't know about every one else but I hate them, you know the ones people who tell complete strangers on the Internet about all the woes and these complete strangers saying oh come on x your to hard on yourself,or oh babe your so beautiful you don't need to worryMaybe it's me,
But really do these people think they have real true friends on the Internet.
People they have never met.
Are these people lacking real friends and are lonely?
Get a real life saddos
I dont know about people reaching out but people like the OP I would walk a 100 miles to avoid....
Some of us are not surrounding by people who can offer advice or comfort, some of us need extra input advice or just to voice concerns without involving family.
I hate to think how many specialised groups there are where people can share medical info and get tips when the doctors have no time or simply let them down.
Thats not saddos, thats people with genuine concerns seeking solice and help from each other and it helps.
Yes there are con merchants and fakers but thats no different to the real world. The same people just take their story online.
Id rather offer advice to 100 fakers than turn away the one genuine person who could be helped.
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