Re: Did You Feel Pressured To Have Children?
My only sister was married twice and never had any kids, she's in her sixties now and she was never asked or hassled about it in her life by any of her family, parents included, it's her decision and we always respected that, besides it's none of our business either. I have always loved kids and get on great with them, I was over the moon when my son and his lovely wife told us they were expecting a child after ten years of marriage, little Patrizio is a year and I month old and we all adore him. I had almost given up on seeing them with a child but again that is entirely between them and nothing to do with me.Re: Did You Feel Pressured To Have Children?
We never wanted children and I'm really thankful we both felt the same, otherwise one of us (probably me) would have perhaps felt obliged to give in and conform. As it is, we were voluntarily childfree and have had what a lot of people with children would consider a selfish life. The thought of painful labour terrified me, I've never much liked the company of children, and although I'm sure there are many parents who adore their families we know many couples personally whose lives seem to consist of sacrifice, worry, hurt and other negative emotions thanks to their offspring. They take over your life as small children, demanding and dominating conversations and disrupting meals out and as teenagers they seem to bring a different sort of misery. Then they marry and if they split up often grandparents are denied seeing their grandchildren's visits if the other half moves on.Re: Did You Feel Pressured To Have Children?
Much better to be honest about not wanting children than conform and resent them, looking at some of the families about I often think they have done it because they felt they should not because they wanted children themselves. (my Mum comes to mind and my two sisters hence so much fracture in my family).Re: Did You Feel Pressured To Have Children?
Re: Did You Feel Pressured To Have Children?
It is better by far that people who don't want children, no matter what the reasons, don't have them. My own mother had several, most of which she should never have had, she used some of us as unpaid servants. A very selfish and inconsiderate woman.Re: Did You Feel Pressured To Have Children?
Re: Did You Feel Pressured To Have Children?
Selfish reasons really, years ago I would have had to give up work and stay at home to raise them because that's what happened back then, these days their are alternatives.Re: Did You Feel Pressured To Have Children?
I remember an old Ronald Shiner film about an army medical, when a Yorkie character was asked how many children have you got.Re: Did You Feel Pressured To Have Children?
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