Re: what would you do - unacceptable behaviour
Me again , hi everyone , great discussion by the way .Re: what would you do - unacceptable behaviour
As a mother myself, I am not sure I could chuck him out either, Susan. The big mistake was letting him come back after the break-up of his relationship. As he has been in trouble before and has physical/mental? problems, I think if I were this mum I would try to get help from outside the family for him. There should be a line of contact into professional help/advice if he has needed support in the past and has a record, otherwise I wonder if her GP would be a good first port of call. I certainly would not leave anything of value in the house and would even consider putting a lock on my own bedroom door. Has she tried putting terms and conditions on him staying with her. Now he is back home I can see it is going to be difficult for her to solve this on her own. She needs to get some help with him. If she is at the end of her tether and really does want him gone, she could change the locks when he is out and refuse to let him in. She may need the help of the police to see this through. She could give him "notice to leave" before doing it - and then with the option of leaving the house herself for a while if it gets too rough. Seems extreme, but if the police became involved it could help. However, she must find the strength and determination to do it and stick to it - but from what you have said that will be easier said that done. There are times though when you have to make a stand - even if it is with your own flesh and blood. I hope the situation improves with your friend and she finds the support she needs.Re: what would you do - unacceptable behaviour
I thank the sweet Lord that I am not in her position as I am renowned for being a soft touch! It is all very well for others to say chuck him out or change the locks, but it sounds as though she is in a terrible dilemma. He is her son, she obviously loves him so it must be terribly hard for a mother to turn her back on him regardless of what a little b.....d he is.
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