Re: Dementia
Originally Posted by
carol
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Azure, was his dementia preceded by apathy, depression and anxiety? You seem to be saying this is a cause of dementia in your first post.
carol
In his case he did not have depression ,he always had a happy disposition, and did not have an unkind word to say about anybody. The onset was memory loss, slowly he started to forget many things
He loved to go to Market for weekend shopping and meet friends and started coming home minus many items.
Mother then gave him a list aad he came home without any shopping or money
"Where is the shopping" asked mother,"I gave you a list and the money' Laughing he replied ,Oh! I gave it away"
She then realized that something was wrong with his behavior and made an appointment to see their GP.
The Bad news that he was in the first stage of Alzheimers at age 70, and it would get progressively worse. Medication was offered but this made him act like a Zombie. A lower dose was the proscribed and she gave it him when he became anxious.
Slowly he reverted back to childhood mentally and physically and would get up early to get ready for School
asking where his satchel was and dinner money.
I lived 200 miles away then with a young family, and kept in touch weekly, and I went to see them four times each year but no room for children,. also they were married when both spouses died after I left home and I hardly knew him as a father.
Mother eventually had to bathe him, dress, him and shave him as well and constantly watch him.
Her close friends of many years, now retired were very helpful.
She refused to send him to a Home and they slept in the same bed right to the end.
Rather poignantly he would bust into song with
"Oh! I do like to be Beside the Seaside" and take mother's hand and sing;
"If you were the Only Girl in the World"
Shame this happened to a lovely man.
My friend's Dementia did start with depression as she was was being treated for it for some time.