10-12-2015, 09:55 AM
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I think I understand 'roughly' how you feel, Steve. I am partially deaf myself and not a single person I speak to is making the slightest effort to speak slower, clearer or louder. They just won't do it. I'm surprised they don't ask me every day to wash my ears out. The hearing aids are good for radio and tv but not for fast talking, mumbling people.
10-12-2015, 09:57 AM
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Originally Posted by malcolm
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Art ...the man is DEAF.....not hard of hearing, there is a world of difference.
Maybe, educating Steve's colleagues (and myself ) in understanding Deafness would make us more aware of what Steve is going through.
10-12-2015, 10:15 AM
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Originally Posted by Mr Ploppy
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I think I understand 'roughly' how you feel, Steve. I am partially deaf myself and not a single person I speak to is making the slightest effort to speak slower, clearer or louder. They just won't do it. I'm surprised they don't ask me every day to wash my ears out. The hearing aids are good for radio and tv but not for fast talking, mumbling people.
I have very bad tinnitus and need people to speak loudly and clearly so I can hear their speech above the whistling noise. If I am in a situation with a lot of background noise I find it very difficult to understand when someone is speaking to me, all the sounds seem to blend together .
Someone I know the husband of a previous work colleague is profoundly deaf and lip reads. I know from his wife that some people are not sure how to approach him so tend not to which adds to his sense of isolation .
I often see him when I am shopping and asked her what he would prefer me to do to acknowledged him. She suggested I touch him lightly on the arm and when he turns to look speak slowly and clearly so he can see my lips which I always do now.
We are all different, I think it is down to each of us to make our needs known to those who speak to us regularly
10-12-2015, 10:30 AM
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Originally Posted by Meg
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We are all different, I think it is down to each of us to make our needs known to those who speak to us regularly
10-12-2015, 04:00 PM
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Originally Posted by Mr Ploppy
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I think I understand 'roughly' how you feel, Steve. I am partially deaf myself and not a single person I speak to is making the slightest effort to speak slower, clearer or louder. They just won't do it. I'm surprised they don't ask me every day to wash my ears out. The hearing aids are good for radio and tv but not for fast talking, mumbling people.
I was saddened to read you are having problems too.
Years ago I got involved with deaf groups when I was learning BSL and found deaf people were very "in your face" and they suffered a lot of stress, anxiety and a lack of confidence but didn't understand why until the last few years.
I'm very snappy these days because I've had years of this sh** from the hearing world, treating me like an imbecile or as if I don't exist but the descent into depression is something I really try hard to avoid all the time but it gets harder daily.
I had cause to write to a solicitor recently to give them some information but also to remind them that I couldn't use telephones as they appear to have the attention span worse than a goldfish, amongst other things.
The Chief Clerk responded the next day - "We will need to have an initial conversation over the telephone with you as we are not a face to face solicitors"
And it's ME that gets treated like a moron?!!! stevmk2
10-12-2015, 04:22 PM
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Originally Posted by stevmk2
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Yes mate, I know that feeling but I'm a bit beyond that now.I was saddened to read you are having problems too.
Years ago I got involved with deaf groups when I was learning BSL and found deaf people were very "in your face" and they suffered a lot of stress, anxiety and a lack of confidence but didn't understand why until the last few years.
I'm very snappy these days because I've had years of this sh** from the hearing world, treating me like an imbecile or as if I don't exist but the descent into depression is something I really try hard to avoid all the time but it gets harder daily.
I had cause to write to a solicitor recently to give them some information but also to remind them that I couldn't use telephones as they appear to have the attention span worse than a goldfish, amongst other things.
The Chief Clerk responded the next day - "We will need to have an initial conversation over the telephone with you as we are not a face to face solicitors"
And it's ME that gets treated like a moron?!!! stevmk2
Well how weird. I have never heard of a solicitor who doesn't have appointments. Does he have a premises even?
What an idiot he sounds anyway Steve.
10-12-2015, 04:36 PM
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I've come across this before too Steve.My wife being totally deaf means that I have to conduct some of her business affairs and sometimes need to make telephone calls on her behalf.
I can't put a number on the times I have been told that she will have to speak to them herself despite me opening the conversation by stating that I am phoning on her behalf because she is profoundly deaf....I find it very hard to keep my temper in check
11-12-2015, 10:11 AM
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Originally Posted by malcolm
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I've come across this before too Steve.My wife being totally deaf means that I have to conduct some of her business affairs and sometimes need to make telephone calls on her behalf.
I can't put a number on the times I have been told that she will have to speak to them herself despite me opening the conversation by stating that I am phoning on her behalf because she is profoundly deaf....I find it very hard to keep my temper in check
The worst part is the assumption that you are somehow retarded because you have to ask people to repeat things.
That dates back to the appalling way that those with Down's Syndrome were often treated in the past because they often had hearing problems too.
Because of the way they spoke they were stigmatised yet I have known a few and there's nothing wrong with their brains - one I knew could carry everyone's darts score in his head and count-down what they could go for to win!
I'll never understand why society in general cannot accept those with disabilities that are not obvious. stevmk2
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