Re: Feeling down
Originally Posted by
wishbone
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I don't understand their attitude to you as I've said on here before I am now completely deaf and people I come in contact with treat me very well and show a lot of patience while talking to me, do you think it's just a fact they don't like you and don't want to bother with you (just a thought)
In July, the senior manager, my manager and I had a meeting to discuss my needs.
All kinds of things were promised, none of which has happened.
What DOES happen is that when I've asked the senior manager, (as my manager does nothing!), about things I'm concerned about or are affecting me via email I never get a esponse.
If the senior manager also avoids speaking to me in the corridors.
The senior manager even had to ask HR if I actually qualified as a Disabled Employee in June when I first had serious hearing-related infections affecting my ability to function; I am profoundly deaf and can here nothing at all without my aids and it's been known this since 2011 when I applied for the job!
What I am saying is that despite all the nice, thoughtful -sounding measures my employer boasts about regarding Equal Opportunities and treatment for disabled employees
it doesn't really happen because NOBODY has a clue.
Even though my employer's a Charity in the Disabled People's "sector" it's all just to satisfy their precious Rules & Regulations and get the Accolades and Certificates to stick in frames on the Reception walls.
Under their own Regulations a disabled employee, (one OFFICIALLY recognised as disabled by HR), who has a problem directly related to his / her disability are entitled to PAID time off from day 1 as opposed to a certain amount of paid sick leave minus the first 3 days.
THAT is where all this hinges because my employer has to pay me if I'm off if it's related to my hearing and the senior manager obviously dislikes that and instructed the accountant NOT to pay me for the first 3 days when I first had problems!
Up 'til June of this year I've had no real problems and any I did have I made arrangements to see hospitals or doctors on Fridays, my day off.
At work I get on with my job and I am not a great socialiser in the workplace because I grew up believing that if you were paid by your employer to work, that's what was the priority.
I've always been that way though because I was always a bit shy and not the gossipy type anyway.
At work, those that actually bother to try to communicate with me are fine but many of those have left and the majority now emulate the senior manager and avoid trying to communicate with me.
They truly do not understand what that does to me!
People in South Wales people are still obviously more understanding.
I lived in a small village in Pembrokeshire when I was young and I count that as one of the happiest times of my life so, in a way, I
know people down there are more understanding.
Around here they do not seem able to tolerate deafness yet I've met people in Spain, Portugal and Cyprus on holidays that would put these people to shame.
You said "
do you think it's just a fact they don't like you and don't want to bother with you" and it is
precisely the second part - they do not want to bother with me.
Maybe I should go back to Wales........
stevmk2