Re: A tragic accident. [Loughborough Junction deaths]
Originally Posted by
swimfeeders
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Hi
It is not just punishment for bad behaviour, it is also about rewarding them for doing the right thing.
To my mind there is far too much emphasis on here about punishment.
You don't train a dog just by punishing it when it does wrong, you get far better results by rewards when it does right, so why concentrate on punishing children?
If they do something right I am happy to reward them, but if they do something wrong & are not punished, they soon catch on that they can get away with doing wrong.
All children are naughty at times, and they push to see how far they can go, so without punishment how can they learn?
People don't concentrate on punishing children, they do it to help the child fit into society and , unless it is abusive punishment, I have always found that kids who have been punished have greater respect for the person who punished them, as they get older.
To this day, I can remember that a punishment of not being allowed to go out was far worse than having to be home on time... so I always made an effort to be home when expected! If I had been rewarded for getting home on time, I would have seen my parents as being a soft touch, so tried to push the boundaries!
I believe that it is wrong not to set boundaries and teach them to obey rules, especially when the law sets boundaries that they should follow!
Too many parents think that giving a child what they want will win their love, but as those children grow up, many of those parents lose the child's respect, and often their company too!