Re: friends stuck in the middle (long post)
I had a similar issue with some of my friends a few years ago, like you it bothered me a lot. In the end I asked them to come to mine for coffee, I then told the both of them that I hated what they were doing to me, I told them I refused to take sides and would not talk about it with any of them again. I suggested they stop being daft, and talk it over now and put things to right. I then grabbed my jacket went out and left them to it. When I returned a while later it was all done and dusted, they were laughing away as if nothing had happened.Re: friends stuck in the middle (long post)
Lion Queen, your husband could be right when he tells you to forget them. It is what I would do and have done myself when friends like this cause you too much stress.Re: friends stuck in the middle (long post)
I would tell them that they are both my friends and I am not prepared to discuss their differences. Tell them that you will not make a choice between them so your option is to maintain the friendship with both, but not listen to either of their complaints about each other.Re: friends stuck in the middle (long post)
Sometimes it's easier not to have close friends, but unlike family at least you can choose them! The problem with 'leaving them to it' without saying anything is that until they understand that 'you're really not interested', you might continue getting emotional earache from them .... on that basis would concur that they probably do need to be told straight ....
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