22-06-2017, 11:06 PM
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Re: what would you do - unacceptable behaviour
Originally Posted by Mups
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Why, when she must be stressed enough, should she have to have all her belongings taken away and her home practically emptied, just to stop this little toe-rag pinching everything?
22-06-2017, 11:08 PM
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Re: what would you do - unacceptable behaviour
Originally Posted by Realist
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Once he leaves, change the locks and don't allow him back in.
22-06-2017, 11:08 PM
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Re: what would you do - unacceptable behaviour
But is Susan's friend in the same predicament as you with your daughter though Dextrous?Do fathers deal with troublesome daughters differently to troublesome sons?
You may be dealing with different circumstances altogether to the other lady?
You are also, presumably, dealing with your problems as a couple, I suspect this lady hasn't got the back up of a husband.
Each case is different. Same as the mindset of the person dealing with it.
I imagine it can be extremely lonely for a woman dealing with perhaps a 6ft troublesome son on her own, especially if he is ever violent.
22-06-2017, 11:09 PM
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Re: what would you do - unacceptable behaviour
Originally Posted by Mups
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Each case is different. Same as the mindset of the person dealing with it.I imagine it can be extremely lonely for a woman dealing with perhaps a 6ft troublesome son on her own, especially if he is ever violent.
Edit - I have no doubt that she's at her wit's end. But to suggest that she should kick the little fooker out is to misunderstand the role of a parent, surely?
22-06-2017, 11:11 PM
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Re: what would you do - unacceptable behaviour
Originally Posted by Dextrous63
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Perhaps because she loves him and lives in eternal hope.
Possibly, but perhaps it is nothing to do with love.
Perhaps she couldn't handle the guilt of turning her back on him.
Perhaps she is afraid of the rest of the family's reaction.
Perhaps she is even of afraid of him.
It could be anything. We just don't know.
22-06-2017, 11:14 PM
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Re: what would you do - unacceptable behaviour
Originally Posted by Mups
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Possibly, but perhaps it is nothing to do with love. Perhaps she couldn't handle the guilt of turning her back on him.
Perhaps she is afraid of the rest of the family's reaction.
Perhaps she is even of afraid of him.
It could be anything. We just don't know.
22-06-2017, 11:16 PM
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Re: what would you do - unacceptable behaviour
Originally Posted by Dextrous63
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Agree that we don't know. But she's brought him into the world and I guess tried to do everything she can to ensure a happy and balanced lifestyle. It beggars belief IMHO that any parent would be willing to wash their hands of their child
Maybe she has been trying for years.
Maybe she can't cope any more?
Maybe the lady herself has health or mental problems?
Would you rather see her hospitalised with a nervous breakdown?
22-06-2017, 11:33 PM
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Re: what would you do - unacceptable behaviour
Originally Posted by Mups
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Maybe she has been trying for years. Maybe she can't cope any more?
Maybe the lady herself has health or mental problems?
Would you rather see her hospitalised with a nervous breakdown?
22-06-2017, 11:42 PM
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Re: what would you do - unacceptable behaviour
Originally Posted by Dextrous63
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Obviously not. There are so many maybe's, for obvious reasons and you are right to highlight possible parameters. But, I ask you in all honesty, would you really be prepared to have thrown your own son or daughter on the streets under these circumstances?
As we have agreed, there are so many maybe's.
The truth is, I don't know what I would do unless it happened.
I certainly would try every other way first.
But as I am alone myself, I may well view this problem a little differently to a man, with the back up of his wife.
That is all I can say in all honesty, because it is a hypothetical situation for me. It isn't for you.
Don't forget also, we are only hearing this tale third hand.
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