Re: Blaming The Parents. Didn’t They Do The Best They Could?
It's tempting to blame my parents for my own personality, but they too were flawed - like most of us - and weren't able to be anything different from what they were. We pass on our failings and weaknesses from one generation to the next, not always deliberately. Maybe if my own parents had simulated tactile affection towards their children, even if they didn't want to, some of it may have rubbed off.Re: Blaming The Parents. Didn’t They Do The Best They Could?
I believe that parents who do too much for their children are not good parents! It is a parents job to teach them how to look after themselves, so I believe that your Mum, Art, was doing that... even if it wasn't her choice to do it that way!Re: Blaming The Parents. Didn’t They Do The Best They Could?
Re: Blaming The Parents. Didn’t They Do The Best They Could?
Re: Blaming The Parents. Didn’t They Do The Best They Could?
When we are young we have hopes and dreams , we all want to have a nice life and maybe children to love and complete us . Our parents all felt the same in their youth , if we look back at their happy wedding day photos they started with hopes and dreams and with the intention of doing their best , but sadly life kicks in , worry stress unhappiness plays it's negative part and being human we make mistakes and once on the downward spiral more unhappiness and problems come in , some irreparable, usually the children suffer , we can be damaged by the past and even our children can be damaged even though we as parents wanted the very best for them , maybe our hopes and dreams evaporated and we just got it wrong .Re: Blaming The Parents. Didn’t They Do The Best They Could?
All we can do is be the best we know how and hope we are doing it right. My mother brought me up to be a caring woman and my mum was the most caring person I ever met in my life yet her mother, my grandma was a pig to her and was a nasty woman so thank god mummum broke the mould! Funnily enough my mum lived her mother dearly even though she was cold.
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