Re: Holding grudges - who does it harm most?
No I don't. You can start by having a grudge against someone then you work it out that its a no go for any peace of mind. I ignore people who don't like or want to be near me. There are plenty of other people who want and need friends. It destroys you from within if you hold grudges orRe: Holding grudges - who does it harm most?
I think if someone does the dirty on you it's only human nature to resent it, it's how you deal with it that matters. I don't believe it's healthy to let it smoulder inside you but much better to resolve the issue one way or another.Re: Holding grudges - who does it harm most?
I think grudges in families are the worst kind, they don't only effect the people holding the grudge but the whole family including kids can be dragged into it, then all sort of stories are told to reinforce each argument as to who's in the right. I've seen it happen and the longer it goes on the harder it gets to reconcile, when my kids were young and they argued I always encouraged them to make up before they went to bed and we usually all ended up laughing about it, this paid off for when they got older, they have their disagreements sure enough but they never hold grudges, my daughter now does the same with her two boys, I hate grudges.Re: Holding grudges - who does it harm most?
Do you mean by grudge, not forgetting? Sometimes it can be rather foolish to forget. How many times are you supposed to forget?
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