15-10-2013, 02:49 PM
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I lost my Hubby 6 and a half years ago...just 7 days before our 55th anniversery...he had been unable to help at all for 13 years before he passed due to problems with heart, lungs, arthritis and alzheimers. We worked together all our married years farming, so together 24/7...not easy being that close...I do miss him a lot..always will...reading this thread has put me into deep sadness and some tears. Glad to have read this thread..hugs, Shirley15-10-2013, 04:01 PM
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ShirleyMarie, I am so sorry for your sadness. I understand how you are feeling. I know we will always love and miss our husbands. I am wishing you peace and good wishes to you.Again, Thank you everyone for posting and sending your thoughts, It helps very much. zoe
15-10-2013, 10:54 PM
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Originally Posted by Mollie
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Some people say that time heals, but they never say how long time is, however it does work for a lot of folk, because we're all different, but if you've had a very intense relationship with your partner the loss is much greater, BUT as time passes, it slowly becomes more bearable, but acceptance is the hardest part.
As the months and years pass, you learn to keep taking the "aspirin", but sometimes you'll miss a dose, and when you do, the pain is just as fresh as it was when it first happened.
I lost my first wife after less than 1 month of marriage back in 1969 and whenever I let my guard down the pain I feel is just as intense as it was 44 years ago.
You are exactly right about acceptance though Mollie.
Thankfully I married my 2nd wife shortly after and realised that there was no point in waiting around. I was still young and could start again - which I did. I know that sounds terribly harsh and you know what, it was, but I am so glad I did as I now have my wife, a daughter and three grandchildren.
If I lost my wife now though, I don't know what I'd do or how I'd cope.
16-10-2013, 12:53 AM
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My hubby Danny died 3 yrs ago last June and I thought cos I didn't cry I was coping, but I wasn't, there are still days when I just look at 1 of his pics and think "Won't be long now love,fore I'm with you again" yet I'm not desperately unhappy but I just want to feel him,to touch him, I stretch my arm out in bed to touch his hand. I've moved on but it hasn't gone away just learning to adjust and live without him, we were together 45 yrs.Each stage of grieving affects us differently.No set pattern.
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