12-10-2014, 10:10 AM
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Re: Visiting the dead
Originally Posted by BowieEyes
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Looking for a grave at the moment. My great Grandad George and Grandma Mary are buried in a massive cemetery in Leeds. Still haven'tfound where they are as the older part where they are is overgrown and
not really tended to. I only found out the other month what the section
and plot was. Why do I want to find the ploy. Well in my mind I would
like to say Hello to them as they have been dead for over a 100 years
and I am here because of their love for each other.
I am determined to find them but its hard when you don't live in the
same city.
My parents were both cremated and so will I be. I don't believe I
regretted not going to their grave. I have them in my head and
can still tell stories of them to my kids and Grandkids. I think that is
what is important in my mind its the mentioning and remembering
whether its good or bad.
12-10-2014, 03:55 PM
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Re: Visiting the dead
Originally Posted by Robert Junior
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Poem by Mary Elizabeth Frye 1905-2004 Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sun on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there; I did not die.
I understand why folks feel the need to visit graves, but it's not for me. I carry their memory in my head.
13-10-2014, 01:11 PM
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Re: Visiting the dead
Originally Posted by Robert Junior
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Poem by Mary Elizabeth Frye 1905-2004 Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sun on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there; I did not die.
I understand why folks feel the need to visit graves, but it's not for me. I carry their memory in my head.
And thank you for posting this. Because sometimes I *do* feel the occasional twang of guilt for only visiting my mom's grave once since she died, which was 13 years ago.
13-10-2014, 01:27 PM
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Re: Visiting the dead
Originally Posted by Eliza
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Same here Bowie Eyes,looking for my Grand dads grave somewhere in the Mansfield area ,I'm still trying to get the correct Death Cert ,once i have that i should be a step closer..
13-10-2014, 02:55 PM
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Re: Visiting the dead
alice 76,, thats a very moving story ,i recently found a cemetery and visited it after finding a relative registered on Burials ,in fact I've visited a few cemeteries but no grave stones exist for my relatives .The poem Do not stand at my grave and weep,was on a card i gave my mum ,
She went into a mourning for a year when my father died ,and visited the grave every week .
13-10-2014, 08:25 PM
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Re: Visiting the dead
We were living at the other end of the country when our parents died. Of course we took time to attend the funerals and help get their affairs in order, but visiting their graves regularly is not practical.I do, when the opportunity arises, visit the graves of famous people. I found visiting Arlington National Cemetery very interesting..
I saw the memorial to the 7 astronauts lost in the Challenge disaster and the beautiful simplicity of JFK's grave.
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