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I thought a leopard never changed its spots?
So in a different relationship, does this mean a wife beater stops beating? A liar stops telling lies? A cheater stops cheating?

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I truly believe that can happen, some people are toxic together, but with other partners they thrive.

A previous friend was in a terrible relationship ended with her in prison for beating her husband, since she remarried no violence at all because her present husband talks to her about things where her previous man told her what to do and tried to control her.

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Mmmm something to think about here . First husband , the meanest man I've ever known , unkind , uncaring and a bully . I didn't know who I was when I found the courage to leave after 16 yrs with my children . 5 yrs later married again and so wanted to be . He promised me everything (not that I ever asked ) I fell for it , it's lip service . Being an empath I so wanted to make him happy and forgot about myself ( I've learned , oh yes I've learned ) he was quite happy with the life I made for us , until one day I woke up .

Now 14 yrs on I live alone , I'm ME , I've found ME , Yay , I know who I am . I'm no longer an empath foolish enough to put others first , I'm strong , I'm independent , I am Woman ......

Ain't no man ever gonna treat me with disrespect again .

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I tend to think the same but we must have something going for us Ruthio

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Absolutely!

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Yes I'm sure I would have been different and I'm sure he would be different too. That's the same for all life choices though would I be a different person had I not had children or not done this or that job or started my own business. Its lifes experiences that make us who we are. Who you marry is part of that,

He is lucky to have me... at least that's what I keep telling him.

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Good on you.
Hug

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For a marriage to work, there has to be compromise. If we married someone else, there would be a different set of compromises so yes, I do think we would be different.

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I think meeting (and marrying) my wife made me a better person. She broadened my narrow, somewhat bigoted view of people around me. We met in our teens and are here now in our eighties, having been married for 61 years. Meeting her has given me the life and loving family that I have today and words can never do justice to the love and gratitude that I owe her.

So, yes, my partner did change my life - - -for the better.

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Dave A , what a lovely post to read . It must be wonderful to love and be loved all those years .