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20-01-2020, 09:26 AM
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Re: When people don’t talk
Muddy step children are never easy & there are only two ways to deal with them when they are in your home...1) If they won't chat, then mention that you are in need of stimulating conversation so going to chat on your regular forum and see how they respond. If they don't respond then mention that they may like to help prepare the veg for dinner whilst you are busy.
2) Ask what they chat about with friends & encourage them to talk. If they respond you may learn something new & , if they don't, you have to accept that they are just like many other younger people!
Isn't that what the "Just Talk" ads on TV are all about?
You can try as hard as you like, but one thing I have learned is that it is not easy to change a person who has been brought up by others that have a different outlook on life. You just have to accept them for the people they are!
20-01-2020, 10:19 AM
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Originally Posted by eccles
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I don't quite understand why these two come to visit if they're too rude to talk to you. Why not suggest to your husband that he meets them on his own or goes to their place? To use a crude phrase, they're pig ignorant IMO. if they dislike you for some reason then they should be adult enough to explain why - if they're just addicted to their phones then they definitely have arrested development and should stay away. they wouldn't be welcome at my place that's for sure.
The fact is the three of them together don’t talk much !
20-01-2020, 10:21 AM
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Re: When people don’t talk
Originally Posted by Twink55
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Muddy step children are never easy & there are only two ways to deal with them when they are in your home...1) If they won't chat, then mention that you are in need of stimulating conversation so going to chat on your regular forum and see how they respond. If they don't respond then mention that they may like to help prepare the veg for dinner whilst you are busy.
2) Ask what they chat about with friends & encourage them to talk. If they respond you may learn something new & , if they don't, you have to accept that they are just like many other younger people!
Isn't that what the "Just Talk" ads on TV are all about?
You can try as hard as you like, but one thing I have learned is that it is not easy to change a person who has been brought up by others that have a different outlook on life. You just have to accept them for the people they are!
20-01-2020, 10:25 AM
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Re: When people don’t talk
Originally Posted by susan m
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When I read this I thought these two were teenagers . How odd that at their ages they show such disinterest. Just a thought Muddy do you ever get board games out and when has their been a time when they have laughed or enthused with you both?
No never do board games and now you mention it they never laugh or enthuse about anything .
20-01-2020, 10:29 AM
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Re: When people don’t talk
Originally Posted by susan m
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When I read this I thought these two were teenagers . How odd that at their ages they show such disinterest. Just a thought Muddy do you ever get board games out and when has their been a time when they have laughed or enthused with you both?
That is the right word Susan disinterest .
No we don’t do board games and come to think of it I have never seen them laugh or enthuse about anything .
They came sking with us some years ago ( mr M treated them ) and it was the same they never met up with us on time at lunch times or went to apres ski and spent much of it together drinking tea .
I took my little grand daughter so was looking after her so I was occupied .
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