08-10-2010, 03:36 PM
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My husband had to ask my fathers permission to marry me (Split thread)
My husband had to ask my father's permission to marry me as I was under 21. His reply was something like, "Yes please", as he had 4 daughters to get off his hands.Just before our wedding day my husband to be and father had to go to the Royal Court to sign a paper officially handing me over, my presence wasn't required, how feudal!
08-10-2010, 04:48 PM
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Re: My husband had to ask my fathers permission to marry me (Split thread)
Originally Posted by Dancingsky
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My husband had to ask my father's permission to marry me as I was under 21. His reply was something like, "Yes please", as he had 4 daughters to get off his hands. Just before our wedding day my husband to be and father had to go to the Royal Court to sign a paper officially handing me over, my presence wasn't required, how feudal!
Like the new name but I also liked Qetta - sounded very dutch.
08-10-2010, 05:10 PM
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Re: My husband had to ask my fathers permission to marry me (Split thread)
Originally Posted by buttercup
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Oh my goodness that's awful. Can you imagine that today?Like the new name but I also liked Qetta - sounded very dutch.
If my father had died when I was young all his property and money would have passed to his nearest male relative as he had no sons! That law was changed so daughters could inherit. Even today the law is a bit 'quaint'. When our father died the estate was divided up in equal shares between our mother, my siblings and myself. Basically mother has the dosh, but only in trust, she can't do as she likes with it, and we have the property of which mother has life enjoyment. As for jewellery and valuables which my father owned, the custom is that the youngest child makes up the lots, each of relatively the same value, and the eldest, in this case myself, had the first pick! What fun!
I am glad you like my new name.
09-10-2010, 08:19 AM
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Re: My husband had to ask my fathers permission to marry me (Split thread)
Originally Posted by dandysmom
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We have come a long way, baby! The vestiges of the patriarchy are eroding, thank God! Daughters as property to be given away!!! Absolutely medieval ......
My father's family expected my mother to go on producing kids until they had a son, but she reckoned the 13th would be a boy and stopped producing when she had 4 girls.
09-10-2010, 09:10 PM
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Re: My husband had to ask my fathers permission to marry me (Split thread)
Originally Posted by Dancingsky
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Very Medieval. My father's family expected my mother to go on producing kids until they had a son, but she reckoned the 13th would be a boy and stopped producing when she had 4 girls.
09-10-2010, 09:49 PM
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Re: My husband had to ask my fathers permission to marry me (Split thread)
I'm inclined to think men feel the need of a son to carry on the family name. In my teens I overheard my parents having a quarrel and Dad made a remark about the son he never had (only child). That really upset me then. And a friend whose son is gay and whose daughter has 2 little boys was lamenting to me that they would not bear the family name ....
09-10-2010, 10:44 PM
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Re: My husband had to ask my fathers permission to marry me (Split thread)
My father in law was disappointed when his son married me as I was 45 years old when we got married and I never wanted children and hubby's father wanted a son to carry on the family name! I felt like saying to him "Tough matey, you can't have any"!The other funny thing was that when we were going to get married hubby said "should I ask your father if I can marry you", which he did. It was sooooo funny, Dad just said "what about me" as Dad was hoping I would stay single and help him out doing errands for them later on when he was elderly! Which I do anyway now for him and Mum ten years on.
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