Self-loathing

Ugh, I just want to crawl under a rock.

I just got of the phone with my mom and given that we have known each other for 60 years (she has known me for slightly longer) we tend to speak to each other freely. In the midst of chatting, I said something utterly stupid that I KNOW hurt her feelings. Realizing my insensitivity, I apologized immediately and she responded with her usual humor and grace.

I'm sitting here stewing over what an utter jack*** I am.

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Please don't stew, SM....you immediately apologised after realising, and she accepted it. If you know each other that well, she will not even be thinking about it right now. If she is, she might be laughing. She knows you....let it go. Everyone is allowed a momentary F-up now and again. Be kind to yourself.

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The good thing is that you realized your error and immediately apologised.
Mum’s always understand

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Mums are like Dads in that respect, they always forgive and forget.
Don't go beating yourself up over it.

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It happens Surfermom. She will forget about after a while.

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Awwww Mom, dont be so hard on yourself, you are a beautiful woman with such a beautiful heart I know your mum won't be thinking any less of you.

Big hugs xxxx

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Thanks, everyone. Most generous of all of you. I am still wincing though. The last person I would ever want to hurt would be my mother.

I figured a nice bouquet of flowers and a note wouldn't hurt.

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Surfermom, There’s no point fretting about it ..... ‘Tis done and you’ll only get more upset about it.

I think we all have days when we are a bit sharp with people. We don’t really mean to be, it just comes out! It could be we are tired or anxious about something.
Can’t you just blame it on a thread on here that got your goat and made you snap a little?

Remember the song.... You always hurt the one you love, the one you shouldn’t hurt at all... so we are all guilty of it sometimes.

Gosh, l feel like Marjorie Proops!

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Very few of us never behave like jackasses. Even I can be a jackass from time to time; as hard as that may be to believe. All I can say is that when someone has acted like a jackass towards me, and then expressed regret, I let it go and forget about it. I'm guessing your mother will do the same.

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I find that very hard to believe .

Thanks for the good consideration.