Re: condolences
Originally Posted by
Artangel
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Mups, l was speaking generally not specifically about Paula at all.
Just because not everyone is a hugger doesn’t mean they have no compassion or empathy.
I am the most caring person you could meet but l don’t have to squeeze the daylights out of someone to show that l care.
I do it by action, good deeds and l will be there for them at all times, not on that one occasion.
No, of course it doesn't, I agree. We can show we care in many ways, but that is not the same thing at all.
Doing 'by action and good deeds' as you call it, is showing you think of them are willing to help and no doubt it would be appreciated.
However, paid carers also do that. It is not an emotional thing.
If someone you had known for years was only recently bereaved, and they held their arms out to you in a moment of need, would you honestly duck out the way and walk past them?
There are times when all I need is a hug, and someone dumping a bag of Sainsbury's shopping on the table - although welcome - wouldn't have quite the same effect.