..or..do as I do..log out..If it's in13-10-2019, 12:07 PM
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Re: Tension
Originally Posted by summer
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I am always intrigued by deleted posts....just nosey I suppose 
Yes I have felt tension here too....weird isn't it.
The reason I deleted my post,summer...some may have taken it the wrong way...then it may have turned nasty...I don't think it is fair on admin,that they have to clear up behind us....and let's face it they do!...quite often lately,I believe...from what I have seen or read.
Sorry if I am out of order for saying this..I understand if my post gets deleted.
13-10-2019, 12:54 PM
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Re: Tension
In my view, Tension or a tense atmosphere is unhealthy and only nurtures bad feeling and resentment.If the tense atmosphere is not broken, it festers and can spiral out of control.
Once the tension is broken and we know where we stand, then only then can a tranquil period be resumed.
13-10-2019, 12:55 PM
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Re: Tension
Originally Posted by Floydy
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On here often, but we've covered that 
Not so much tension, but sometimes you can feel an 'atmosphere' as soon as you walk into a place, especially in a pub. You somehow sense that something ugly is about to happen.
lol Floydy, your post reminded me of when the family made their annual pilgrimage to Rathkeale, Co. Limerick to visit my Irish dad's huge family in the mid 70's
We had travelled over in a Minibus, just family. There were 14 of us in a 16-seater bus, Adults, teenagers, and small children.
After we had spent a week there, (Rathkeale was renowned for being an IRA stronghold town since 1922) we headed over to my Irish mother's part of the Island to Co Kerry to visit her side of the family..
Just after leaving Rathkeale, one of the children decided they wanted the toilet, You know what it's like, once one child wants to go, so do the others, so, although we were travelling down country roads and lanes because it was a quicker and nicer scenic route, we spotted a pub in the middle of nowhere (shop counter at the front, bar at the back). I think the person serving had a bit of a shock when a hoard of English speaking men, women and children poured in and started to buy loads of stuff from her. She had a face like a wet kipper until she started talking to Mum and Dad, and found out where they hailed f from.
Then the children again, decided that they wanted to sit down in the bar at the back for their glasses of lemonade and orange drinks that they simply could not do without. So we all traipsed over to open the door to the bar. Inside were about a dozen men sitting around two tables, they had been chatting away because we could hear them from the shop front. But the moment we walked in, the room went completely and utterly silent. Not a word was spoken, all these men could hear were English voices chattering away amongst ourselves. One could have cut the atmosphere with a knife it was so quiet. It was really uncomfortable. (and very scary)
Thankfully, once again, Mum and Dad broke the ice and started chatting, and these men soon found that they were Irish and where they were from,a couple of the men even knew some of Dad's brothers from Rathkeale as they were in the same professions greyhound and horse training, they told them that we were on holiday to see family and seemed to relax a little. But my brothers, girlfriends and I could see that some of the men were still watching us with suspicion, and obvious dislike at hearing the English accent being spoken in what was obviously their inner sanctum.
I was so glad to leave to be honest, especially as I was at that time, on leave from the forces!! gulp!
I have never known tension like it when we entered that building. We spent the next half hour after leaving, just talking about it.
13-10-2019, 01:28 PM
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Re: Tension
Originally Posted by Artangel
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In my view, Tension or a tense atmosphere is unhealthy and only nurtures bad feeling and resentment. If the tense atmosphere is not broken, it festers and can spiral out of control.
Once the tension is broken and we know where we stand, then only then can a tranquil period be resumed.
The best way to deal with such things is just to say sod the lot of 'em and carry on with what YOU want to do.
It's a thing once learned never forgotten and makes for a much simpler life.
13-10-2019, 01:45 PM
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Originally Posted by Artangel
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In my view, Tension or a tense atmosphere is unhealthy and only nurtures bad feeling and resentment. If the tense atmosphere is not broken, it festers and can spiral out of control.
Once the tension is broken and we know where we stand, then only then can a tranquil period be resumed.
Exactly...
13-10-2019, 02:07 PM
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Re: Tension
Originally Posted by shropshiregirl
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lol Floydy, your post reminded me of when the family made their annual pilgrimage to Rathkeale, Co. Limerick to visit my Irish dad's huge family in the mid 70's We had travelled over in a Minibus, just family. There were 14 of us in a 16-seater bus, Adults, teenagers, and small children.
After we had spent a week there, (Rathkeale was renowned for being an IRA stronghold town since 1922) we headed over to my Irish mother's part of the Island to Co Kerry to visit her side of the family..
Just after leaving Rathkeale, one of the children decided they wanted the toilet, You know what it's like, once one child wants to go, so do the others, so, although we were travelling down country roads and lanes because it was a quicker and nicer scenic route, we spotted a pub in the middle of nowhere (shop counter at the front, bar at the back). I think the person serving had a bit of a shock when a hoard of English speaking men, women and children poured in and started to buy loads of stuff from her. She had a face like a wet kipper until she started talking to Mum and Dad, and found out where they hailed f from.
Then the children again, decided that they wanted to sit down in the bar at the back for their glasses of lemonade and orange drinks that they simply could not do without. So we all traipsed over to open the door to the bar. Inside were about a dozen men sitting around two tables, they had been chatting away because we could hear them from the shop front. But the moment we walked in, the room went completely and utterly silent. Not a word was spoken, all these men could hear were English voices chattering away amongst ourselves. One could have cut the atmosphere with a knife it was so quiet. It was really uncomfortable. (and very scary)
Thankfully, once again, Mum and Dad broke the ice and started chatting, and these men soon found that they were Irish and where they were from,a couple of the men even knew some of Dad's brothers from Rathkeale as they were in the same professions greyhound and horse training, they told them that we were on holiday to see family and seemed to relax a little. But my brothers, girlfriends and I could see that some of the men were still watching us with suspicion, and obvious dislike at hearing the English accent being spoken in what was obviously their inner sanctum.
I was so glad to leave to be honest, especially as I was at that time, on leave from the forces!! gulp!
I have never known tension like it when we entered that building. We spent the next half hour after leaving, just talking about it.
That's what we call 'democracy' over here!
I just wonder whether, should NI ever choose to join Eire, the Irish would then be happy and stop hating the English.
I wonder.
13-10-2019, 02:18 PM
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Re: Tension
Originally Posted by keezoy
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Lots of tension here. Like in all groups, everybody seems to have an unofficial role. THere are the clowns, the bullies, the agitators and antagonists, the provocateurs and the stirrers, the earnest contributors, the complainers, the optimists and pessimists, the builders and the tearers down. Then there's the pacifiers, the nurturers, consensus seekers and the peacemakers. It's all grist for the mill and everybody plays a part. If there was no tension in this "room" the forum would not work. Soewmtimes it gets over the top. That's why we have mods innit?
Good post, Keezoy, and I agree.
We're a mixed bag.
13-10-2019, 02:41 PM
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Re: Tension
I've felt very high tension in some people's houses. It happened when I touched somewhere I shouldn't have inside the back of a TV while carrying out a repair. High Tension Voltage, definitely a hazard.Tension to do with feelings? Yes, it can often be sensed shortly after joining the company of others who are upset with each other for one reason or another.
13-10-2019, 02:48 PM
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Originally Posted by mart
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I've felt very high tension in some people's houses. It happened when I touched somewhere I shouldn't have inside the the back of a back of a TV while carrying out a repair. High Tension Voltage, definitely a hazard. Tension to do with feelings? Yes, it can often be sensed shortly after joining the company of others who are upset with each other for one reason or another.
Yes, I agree with that, Mart.
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