11-08-2009, 07:22 AM
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Be positive - live longer
An interesting study has just been published, which says that women with an optimistic nature outlive those who are miserable or mistrusting. Somehow that seems logical to me - if you want to wake up and see tomorrow and if you have nice things to look forward too why wouldn't you tend to achieve those ends?The syudy dosn't appear to mention men but I wonder if their shorter avaerage lifespan is to do with their tending to worry, or to suffer more under the weight of responsibilities than women tend to?
11-08-2009, 10:32 AM
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Re: Be positive - live longer
Originally Posted by dinahsmum
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An interesting study has just been published, which says that women with an optimistic nature outlive those who are miserable or mistrusting. Somehow that seems logical to me - if you want to wake up and see tomorrow and if you have nice things to look forward too why wouldn't you tend to achieve those ends?The syudy dosn't appear to mention men but I wonder if their shorter avaerage lifespan is to do with their tending to worry, or to suffer more under the weight of responsibilities than women tend to?
It probably has a ring of thruth to it, if you are always looking for the negative, it will drag you down.
Not sure about men
I think its a personal thing rather than gender
13-08-2009, 02:21 PM
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Re: Be positive - live longer
I think the Indian tradition of suttee has something to commend it (in theory), where long-long term partnerships are ended with the death of one partner. Leaping on a funeral pyre doesn't sound the nicest though.I felt quite a lot of sympathy for the conductor and his wife who went to Dignitas (nasty!) recently. Both over 80, her with a terminal illness, he (a musician) suffering serious hearing loss. She was destined to die shortly and he did not want to live without her - sounds logical to me.
However I think in most cases that people do adjust. My mum was lost when my dad died in the 60th year of their marriage and the 66th year of their 'sweetheart-hood', but, two and a half years on, she has built herself a happy new, but different, life.
13-08-2009, 07:59 PM
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Re: Be positive - live longer
My OH makes sure I fully partake in the 'stresses' . . . charming! I'm by nature a trusting and forward-looking person but I feel so ground down by the pressures of trying to pacify a pessimist that I'm almost at the end of that particular road. Example - changing gear tonight and missing it resulted in a tirade worthy of one's team loosing the world cup
Life's too short for rubbish like that . . . whatever smelly stuff is going to hit us will do so . . . it's not worth stressing over, that's my philosophy!
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