02-10-2019, 10:30 AM
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Re: Forgive and forget, or bear a grudge?
Originally Posted by Puddle Duck
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No worries, it's just that we do these thing without thinking about what we are doing. When we each pay attention to our make up, it is the specific topic that dominates our attitudes, and forgiveness or grudge etc. Therefore we cannot (myself included) cannot make a sweeping statement like we always forgive rather than condemn, because we don't, do we ?
02-10-2019, 10:32 AM
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Re: Forgive and forget, or bear a grudge?
Originally Posted by The Artful Todger
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Me? I neither forgive or forget. If someone gives me grief then I'll either just write it off (but never forgive it) or get even irrespective of how long it takes, though I might just write it off after a while.
Forget?
Never.
Forgiveness is different in every situation and people deal with things according to the particular event.
02-10-2019, 10:46 AM
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Re: Forgive and forget, or bear a grudge?
Big part of my ethos is forgiving I really find hanging onto anger or hurt destroys me more than the other person.I think it's why on forums I struggle a bit because if someone annoys me I forgive them second time I forgive them 100 times they do it I find myself snapping back and all thought of forgiving them goes out the window.
We had great anger here over a situation few years ago it took a while to come to a point of forgiving the person for what they did. We can never forget but we have forgiven.
02-10-2019, 11:07 AM
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Re: Forgive and forget, or bear a grudge?
Originally Posted by summer
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I try forgive and forget Floydy but some things are just unforgivable in those cases I have to admit I do cut people out of my life.....life is too short to share or with people you have lost trust in.
02-10-2019, 02:30 PM
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Re: Forgive and forget, or bear a grudge?
I must admit has a younger man I would get even I would pulverise them in some way or make them look so silly. These days though I ain't got that strength in me so now its all about trust.There are those family members (on her side) that I will never trust again. I will spend the day if they visit the missus saying hello or goodbye when I walk through a room but never trust them.
She thinks I am silly ,who give a fig,there are things you don't do to family.
They did something once they will never get the chance to do it again.
Lets hope I never get dementia, I would never want to let them have another good day in my presence .
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