Re: Roberts Poems (part 3)
My mother had dementure, largely undiagnosed, during the couple of years leading up to her death. We all coped with that up to a point. The most difficult thing to understand was the short term memory loss she experienced in her last few months.
Either myself or my brother or sister went to see her every day in her sheltered accommodation, which she refused to leave right up until the end.
Imagine, waking up and not knowing who you were or where you were. Three times a day care workers came in to assist. Sometimes she welcomed them, sometimes she threw them out.
Sometimes becoming paranoid & accusing them of stealing, of all things, her goldfish. Mother started hiding rolls of £200 or £300 in between books or under her mattress.
She could remember songs from years back, when she was quite well known locally as a singer in clubs & pubs. She never gave up her make up , hairdo’s & long fingernails, painted red of course.
In constant pain from a crumbling spine we had her stay with us on a Saturday & she enjoyed singing old songs with us on YouTube. Just for a moment her smile faded & she gave me a long long look, Great tears welled up in her eyes & dropped to the floor. The look said “I can’t live like this any more”
My brother & sister visited her the next day and were greeted with a big smile and a chirpy “Good, you can make me a nice cup of tea”. When they returned from the kitchen she was gone, passed away , quietly , still smiling.