15-04-2014, 12:44 PM
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Re: Mourning
Originally Posted by Jem
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We all mourn in our own way, my way is to keep the happy memories of my loved ones with me in my head, I personally don't see the need for elaborate graves and huge headstones, that's done to impress the living, so is outward long term mourning, in my opinion.
15-04-2014, 01:19 PM
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Re: Mourning
Originally Posted by Silver Tabby
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I agree with that, Jem.
Personally my side of the family we are all cremated and scattered so no lasting monument but my husbands side have burial plot with large stone monument.
Neither IMO is right or wrong it's just different and I have to admit I get some comfort from going to my MILs grave and chatting to her. We even take our new puppies to introduce them to her ! Can't do that to dust on the grass like my lot are
15-04-2014, 01:43 PM
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Re: Mourning
Originally Posted by Patsy
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Each to their own - its better for people to have what they want to comfort them at that time.For me, I wouldn't visit a site that meant nothing to us, he would be by my side and in my heart, in our home .....
15-04-2014, 02:27 PM
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Re: Mourning
Each to their own I say.Me personally in my 60yrs on this planet coming from a very large family. I can say honestly I have never mourned another soul. Lost 2 sisters father mother and never shed a tear.
But over those years I have picked up a wife,a daughter and son and 5 grandchildren.
I know if I lost anyone of those my world would end.
15-04-2014, 06:22 PM
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Re: Mourning
I've very recently lost my mum and at some point most days I grieve for her, it's the feelings of loss and the huge void she's left in my everyday life that I struggle with, some days are better than others and I believe it's quite normal to feel this way as it's part of the healing process which I know will get easier in time.I too have decided not to have a memorial service, no newspaper announcement, just straight to the Crematorium without any fuss!
15-04-2014, 06:23 PM
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Re: Mourning
I'm still mourning my mum. She went Oct 2012. Dad died in 2005. Their ashes are in the same plot and mum's details were added to his stone. I'm happy to go along on any anniversary, be it birthday, death date, mother's or father's day, and leave some flowers or a plant. I always always plant a kiss lightly on the top of the stone, saying goodbye or hello. Then I might sit on a bench for a few minutes.Mum's passing has particularly left a gaping hole in my life, as we did so much together. Probably why I burst into tears a few weeks ago while walking around Salisbury on my short trip away.
15-04-2014, 06:24 PM
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Re: Mourning
Originally Posted by Honey
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I've very recently lost my mum and at some point most days I grieve for her, it's the feelings of loss and the huge void she's left in my everyday life that I struggle with, some days are better than others and I believe it's quite normal to feel this way as it's part of the healing process which I know will get easier in time.I too have decided not to have a memorial service, no newspaper announcement, just straight to the Crematorium without any fuss!
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