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29-04-2019, 09:14 AM
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Re: Getting Ready to Die

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It's just that Ms d00d & I own our house and nothing more (much). We have no Will because, which ever one of us goes first, the survivor will automatically own the house, and can then decide what happens to it. If we both go together (like a plane crash!) we don't care what happens to it.
If you don't have a will or close family then eventually it goes to the taxman.
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29-04-2019, 09:26 AM
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Re: Getting Ready to Die

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If you don't have a will or close family then eventually it goes to the taxman.
Oh I thought it went to next of kin.

We don't believe in plane crashes, so we thought whoever lasts the longest out of the two of us can decide what to do with it.

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29-04-2019, 09:32 AM
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Re: Getting Ready to Die

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Thanks and Oh yes, ...i am a 'young' 50 ish yr old so moping isnt on my bucket list, lol

Mind you i Couldn't believe my luck on ' 3' within 8 mths !!
but they were small, fingers crossed now 'no more' !


Attitude is definitely key in my opinion xx
You have the right attitude Lorna!

I was found to have a very aggressive cancer 8 years ago. The treatment wasn't pleasant, but I have been clear over the last 7 years.

My oncologist told me that i had survived because of my strong positive attitude to beat the disease. He also said that, in my case, the cancer was probably too scared to come back!
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29-04-2019, 09:33 AM
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Re: Getting Ready to Die

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Oh I thought it went to next of kin.

We don't believe in plane crashes, so we thought whoever lasts the longest out of the two of us can decide what to do with it.


May I ask what have you got against writing it down to make sure, Dood? Is there a particular reason?
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29-04-2019, 09:47 AM
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Re: Getting Ready to Die

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May I ask what have you got against writing it down to make sure, Dood? Is there a particular reason?
No not really.

It's just that we don't know what to write down at this stage because we don't know which one of us will last longest.

Oh, do you mean to ensure that the first to die gives their half of our home to the other? The house is jointly owned. And that's all we have.

Feel free to ask more. Maybe we ought to write something down!
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29-04-2019, 09:53 AM
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Re: Getting Ready to Die

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No not really.

It's just that we don't know what to write down at this stage because we don't know which one of us will last longest.

Oh, do you mean to ensure that the first to die gives their half of our home to the other? The house is jointly owned. And that's all we have.

Feel free to ask more. Maybe we ought to write something down!


Maybe a phone call to Age UK will help you decide, Dood.
I rang them recently about my own will and they have a will writer that is a third of the price of a solicitor.

Having said that, you must do what you feel is best for you and and your wife, not what other people do.
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29-04-2019, 10:18 AM
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Re: Getting Ready to Die

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You have the right attitude Lorna!

I was found to have a very aggressive cancer 8 years ago. The treatment wasn't pleasant, but I have been clear over the last 7 years.

My oncologist told me that i had survived because of my strong positive attitude to beat the disease. He also said that, in my case, the cancer was probably too scared to come back!
So pleased for you....its done, over with and NEVER to return !!!!! X

Luckily mine was not aggressive, so i tip my hat to you x
its not always easy to keep the chin up...
(i know those quiet moments ! ...then we take a deep breath & clear that awful thought away !)

My 2nd & 3rd times were massive shocks (to say the least) but i was told from the off that it was a very positive outlook...
'that' gave me my strength,
That & the fact i got too much i need to do....my spare bedroom needs sorting out for starters LOL
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29-04-2019, 10:20 AM
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Re: Getting Ready to Die

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No not really.

It's just that we don't know what to write down at this stage because we don't know which one of us will last longest.

Oh, do you mean to ensure that the first to die gives their half of our home to the other? The house is jointly owned. And that's all we have.

Feel free to ask more. Maybe we ought to write something down!
The laws of intestancy will give it to your nearest next of kin if they can trace them .If they can't it will go to the Crown .Either way lawyers will take a large chunk of it.
Your will can be simple do one each the same .
I leave my half of the house to my spouse .............( name)
If she/he survives me by 30 or whatever days
Better to write something down it can always be changed later .
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29-04-2019, 10:28 AM
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Re: Getting Ready to Die

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So pleased for you....its done, over with and NEVER to return !!!!! X

Luckily mine was not aggressive, so i tip my hat to you x
its not always easy to keep the chin up...
(i know those quiet moments ! ...then we take a deep breath & clear that awful thought away !)

My 2nd & 3rd times were massive shocks (to say the least) but i was told from the off that it was a very positive outlook...
'that' gave me my strength,
That & the fact i got too much i need to do....my spare bedroom needs sorting out for starters LOL
People with cancer all go through the same emotions, at different stages..... but it is how you deal with those emotions that count!
My specialist cancer hospital told me they have so many who survive now, and that is what makes the check up clinics so full.
Listen to what they tell you & put the spare bedroom on hold, if you feel tired. Good luck!
 
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