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17-01-2020, 05:33 PM
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I am still relatively young compared to some here and I often give my head a shake because I worry a lot about dying. Moreso since I developed a heart condition because it makes me realise my body is slowing down and wearing out. I should be too busy having fun instead of thinking about death at my age but when I think how my sister and mum were both taken from me suddenly without warning it is then that I think for goodness sake Bev enjoy life, no-one can do anything about the inevitable and it's just a case of when for us all.

I just hope and pray I don't suffer in pain or burden my family.

It's a sad subject but one we all have to face and i.ve found this thread interesting how you all deal with it in your own way whether it be with fear or acceptance.

In an ideal world I LL pop my clogs in my sleep, not tonight though god, thank you.



I.m frightened to die before my dad because he needs me
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17-01-2020, 07:10 PM
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A while ago I had a heart attack, that on its own would have been bad enough but I was on the outside lane of the motorway driving at 70mph! However, I got out of that without any further problems and obviously survived. Later, speaking to my cardiologist I said that I just couldn’t understand why that heart attack had happened. He just said for me to look back over time, not just a year or so but over 30-35 years and there would be the answer. Sure enough it was – a stressful few years working shifts, a divorce plus a lot of aggravation over that, and both my parents died.

Later, when at a follow-up appointment with my GP, who really did and still does look after me well, I posed the same question. Really it was just to confirm that being teetotal, being an ex-smoker, not taking drugs, living a reasonable life with a healthy diet was helpful and had not contributed in any way to that heart attack but probably helped recovering from it.

The answer she gave me was so simple but put everything into perspective. She said “you forgot just one thing, you are a human being so are fallible”. That made such sense and is something that I am sure many of us do overlook. That is well worth remembering, all the worry in the world does not prevent the obvious, just probably makes it happen even quicker!
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17-01-2020, 08:48 PM
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Originally Posted by susan m ->
slightly digressing but same subject , my friend who recently died didnt have or want a funeral . His wife was pleased as she had said her farewell and didnt have the added upset of arranging stressful dates people and times . Also she didnt have that awful wait for 2 or 3 weeks of dread and upset . She herself doesnt want one either. Im thinking the same now . Im going to discuss with my kids . I think its less stress for them
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17-01-2020, 08:59 PM
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I like funerals, a celebration of life, a time when distant relatives and friends come out of the woodwork, a piss-up, undeniably so.

I never went to my father's funeral, he didn't really have one, he died in australia, a long way to go even if I was invited, a bit sad because he -when alive- was the funeral type too.
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17-01-2020, 09:18 PM
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The inevitability of death I look upon positively. I am not religious but I have a feeling that there is something like a universal "consciousness" I have jumped out of a perfectly good aeroplane, bungeed off a high bridge, crawled through underground caves and have a very poor sense of self preservation. When the inevitable happens I look upon it as 'the last extreme adventure'.
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17-01-2020, 10:21 PM
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For me, the thought of BEING dead does not bother me. The thing that scares hell out of me is the process of dying. My fears revolve around the thought that I might be lying on the floor, fully conscious, unable to move, and knowing that no one will find me until long after I am gone.
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18-01-2020, 03:09 AM
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I'm not scared of death. I just don't want to be around when it happens.
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18-01-2020, 09:29 AM
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Re: Becoming comfortable with death

Originally Posted by keezoy ->
I'm not scared of death. I just don't want to be around when it happens.


Well I didn't wake up dead this morning so I am not even
going to think about it or comment further!
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18-01-2020, 04:04 PM
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Re: Becoming comfortable with death

Originally Posted by keezoy ->
I'm not scared of death. I just don't want to be around when it happens.
Also:

"I wouldn't mind dying — it's that business of having to stay dead that scares the shit out of me." — R. Geis.

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18-01-2020, 04:14 PM
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I am not worried. I can see a time, as I did with my dad and grandmother, when you have lived a long life, most of your friends, family, and pets have dies, when dying seems like the lesser of evils.

I think that hardest part of dying, isn't dying, but the years of struggling to be positive and trying not to think about it when one has been diagnosed with a terminal disease.
 
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