20-01-2020, 10:33 AM
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Re: When people don’t talk
Originally Posted by Artangel
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Muddy, I would avoid them and leave them with their dad as it sounds like a hard nut to crack with those two!
Do they expect you to cater for them? Well you should plan a nice day out with a friend & leave them something to warm up.
You've tried your best. I don't suppose they can help being weird but it's time for you to stop bothering now.
20-01-2020, 10:47 AM
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Re: When people don’t talk
Originally Posted by AnnieS
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They might have undiagnosed high functioning aspergers Muddy. It can appear as aloofness. I'm sure it's not personal. It may be worth exploring why it makes you feel so anxious though because they may feel that tension and it may be affecting their ability to open up.
I don’t think they have anything like that but (IMO) they have depression .
The posts on this thread have made me realise - that these are not two happy women .
They are slow ,excruciatingly so - talk in monotones and of course never engage at all.
They both have issues with work one has a very good job in the city but it is tense .The other works in a hospital lab but consistently fails to upgrade because she doesn’t provide the details they require. ( which she could with a little effort) so we can’t talk about their work as it’s all negative. .
When they stay with us they always get up very late and they take hours -literally -to get ready to go out .
If we arrange to meet them somewhere they are always without fail late often hours.
So much so that last time we met up ( to return the dog - theirs -after Christmas ) I refused to leave the house until they phoned to say they had left their house and were on their way.
Fed up with wasting hours of my life waiting on horrible motorway service stations or elsewhere ,
20-01-2020, 11:51 AM
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Re: When people don’t talk
Originally Posted by Muddy
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Have tried various things Twink with no result so you are right just have to accept and go for more long walks with the dog 
).Do some art work, with your talent you may capture their attention.
If not, then just get on with your day and let their dad keep them entertained. It isn't easy to be polite to those who don't return the favour.....but it does make you the better person!
20-01-2020, 12:04 PM
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Re: When people don’t talk
Originally Posted by Muddy
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I think next time they come I will arrange a visit elsewhere.
I believe that it would be a waste of your time to try and get them to engage in conversation. If I might make a suggestion ? Should you find yourself trapped with them, be civil but nothing else.
20-01-2020, 08:12 PM
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Re: When people don’t talk
Originally Posted by Muddy
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I had a think about this . I don’t think they have anything like that but (IMO) they have depression .
The posts on this thread have made me realise - that these are not two happy women .
They are slow ,excruciatingly so - talk in monotones and of course never engage at all.
They both have issues with work one has a very good job in the city but it is tense .The other works in a hospital lab but consistently fails to upgrade because she doesn’t provide the details they require. ( which she could with a little effort) so we can’t talk about their work as it’s all negative. .
When they stay with us they always get up very late and they take hours -literally -to get ready to go out .
If we arrange to meet them somewhere they are always without fail late often hours.
So much so that last time we met up ( to return the dog - theirs -after Christmas ) I refused to leave the house until they phoned to say they had left their house and were on their way.
Fed up with wasting hours of my life waiting on horrible motorway service stations or elsewhere ,
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