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Yes. Dependent on the audience.
It’s really draining to always watch what you say and how you say it. Everyone is so tuned in to being politically correct nowadays

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When speaking, not necessarily.


I always choose my words carefully when writing.

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I wish!

I have found, no matter how you choose your words, you are bound to upset someone,it’s inevitable.

I can’t spend my time walking on eggshells, people are who they are ,whatever their choice of words, you either accept them that way,or, you ignore them, simples.

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Precisely so.

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Especially ,the word “ Fart” to some,

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Precisely so.

I spent enough years walking on eggshells around my ex that I was glad to see her walk out on me in the end. I even told V just after we met that I was (and still am) a WYSIWYG-type of person and likely to say things without thinking them through first.

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No I think one thing however my mouth seems to have a default setting for honesty but luckily my feet seem to be attached to my brain/heart and walk me away.

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That's covered by the old saying "You can please some of the people some of the time but not all of the people all of the time".

I have to admit it's difficult having to walk on eggshells, I have had to do this for years. Sometimes though, with people who have difficulties, there is no other way. You often have to think first before saying something out of place or hurtful. Nobody wants to do this, even unintentionally.

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Nobody wants to do this, sorry Baz, disagree with you there.

Quite a few want to hurt, “ intentionally “...it’s understanding why they do this .

Have you heard the saying.........”Hurt people”..........Hurt people.

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By quoting only the last sentence of that paragraph in my post you have taken my comment totally out of context, which I suggest, is why you disagree with me. I can see what you mean. However, I am not writing about those who intentionally say something with the wish to deliberately hurt another person's feelings. What I am writing about are those "people who have difficulties", those who have problems with mental health issues, and there are many. Have you ever dealt with anyone with those issues who hears something that sends them back to a real problem of the past (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder – PTSD)? The person who says something completely unintentionally causing something unexpected in the other person, by not knowing a particular reaction could be the result. The only way to try to prevent this from happening is to "tread on eggshells", to think before saying anything. From personal experience I can assure you it's far from easy, unfortunately though often very necessary with particular people with these problems.