Re: Should we forgive
Originally Posted by
Lion Queen
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Ok Baz thanks for this. I m not quite sure if you are trying to say I should allow the person back into my life who caused me a huge amount of distress. However, I never will, my life if much more peaceful and I m not prepared to let that person damage my health anymore, if I don't see them or hear from them anymore I can't be given any rubbish. X
That's OK no problem. No, I am definitely not saying let that person back into your life if you don't wish to. In your case the person who caused you that distress is too much of a risk for you to allow them back into your life to possibly do it again. That is how you are dealing with that, I would and have, done the same.
The problem might be that the hurtful emotions of whatever it was can remain, even getting that individual out of a person's life may not dispel those emotions which could affect your life if you were angry or became bitter as a result.
I know someone who was really badly treated and the family too. However, that person can actually still find whatever it is, and I admire them for whatever that is, to deal with the transgressor, but in a very different way. We all have so many different agendas that it's not possible for us to find a common answer to any of this. To find a way though where we are able to function without anything that may have happened in the past affecting our present lives must I reckon be the best way.
I was never taught forgiveness, just the opposite, but having been both sides of a particular problem I can only say as I have found by my own personal experience but any experience is very personal so will be different for all of us.