30-05-2013, 07:00 PM
11
Re: Marriage Vows
Originally Posted by Pats CG
->
You 'know' better now gal - we all learn ....
30-05-2013, 07:27 PM
12
Re: Marriage Vows
Originally Posted by Meg
->
I am not sure I 'took vows' as such having been married in a registry office .We were already living together (shock horror in those days) and I saw no reason to get married, I didn't need a bit of paper to state my commitment to my chosen mate.
My word was my bond and so was his. I would have stayed faithful to him for the rest of my life and indeed I have done so since he died almost 30 years ago. He was the love of my life, the father of my child, funny, super intelligent and for me no other man could hope to match him in any way.
30-05-2013, 08:26 PM
13
Re: Marriage Vows
Originally Posted by mindbender
->
[sure BV will tell us why]
30-05-2013, 09:00 PM
14
Re: Marriage Vows
We didn't live together before marriage and being married in church was very important to my husband and my grandmother, at the time I would have married him anywhere but now I am very glad we did it in church.I don't think living together would have kept us together so long as we had big problems trying for children it was at one point the only thing holding us together after we gave that up we became close again and have remained so ever since but that time I think we could both have walked away if we hadn't had that piece of paper.
31-05-2013, 01:09 AM
15
Re: Marriage Vows
Originally Posted by Julie1962
->
We didn't live together before marriage and being married in church was very important to my husband and my grandmother, at the time I would have married him anywhere but now I am very glad we did it in church.I don't think living together would have kept us together so long as we had big problems trying for children it was at one point the only thing holding us together after we gave that up we became close again and have remained so ever since but that time I think we could both have walked away if we hadn't had that piece of paper.
31-05-2013, 08:47 AM
16
Re: Marriage Vows
Originally Posted by mindbender
->
we let paper control our lives?
31-05-2013, 08:55 AM
17
Re: Marriage Vows
Originally Posted by ben-varrey
->
That's the bit I don't understand - it almost makes the marriage certificate have the same power as a speeding ticket or parking fine. If people genuinely care about each other and want to spend the rest of their lives with one another, they'll do that regardless of whether a piece of paper has been signed. State acknowledged marriage offers legal protection and nothing more.
31-05-2013, 09:31 AM
18
Re: Marriage Vows
Just because someone has problems at a point in their life doesn't mean they don't deeply love the other person and still want to grow old together. Our problem was fertility and a dead newborn sort of tested us as people rather heavily. If I had been with someone else I could have had children if he had he too could have had children together we couldn't. We needed time to get our heads round that one and decide which was more important to us, we knew we wanted to be together we just needed time to realise that.The piece of paper gave us that the idea of a divorce was horrific to us as we needed each other but we could have just drifted away from each other without our vows and that piece of paper.
|
|
