Re: What makes a Lady ?

No idea!

Re: What makes a Lady ?

Hard to say what I reckon a lady is. Possibly a woman who is never too proud to talk to anyone in a friendly manner. Who would listen with interest as well as talk. A smart, elegant and well-spoken woman who would not do that might be termed 'a madam' rather than 'a lady'. Anyone who might say, "Of course I'm a ****ing lady!" definitely is not one.

Re: What makes a Lady ?

The idea that a Lady never swears is risible.
Quite often genuine titled women such as Lady Wotnot and Baroness Thingumy have foul mouths!

We're first and foremost women.

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Of course its almost always the mans fault when it slips out. I still feel that a true lady should always pay for sex on the first date.

Re: What makes a Lady ?

From Country Life the rules for being a Lady.

1. Can carry her own luggage, but accepts offers with a smile.

2. Says ‘thank you’ when a seat is offered or a door opened.

3. Doesn’t take offence easily.

4. Fends off unwanted passes with ease.

5. Accepts a compliment, even from an inappropriate, old fool.

6. Makes her point firmly, but unaggressively.

7. Knows that a single, explosive swear word beats a torrent of obscenity.

8. Walks like a functional human, without tittupping, hip-swinging or hair-flicking.

9. Can perfectly well change a wheel, but will express gratitude if a man offers.

10. Tactfully covers up others’ social gaffes.

11. Accepts that not everyone wants her cat jumping on them.

12. Laughs at the ridiculous hero of Fifty Shades Of Grey.

13. Drapes an elegant shawl when breast-feeding in public.

14. Like Grace Kelly, thinks clothes should be ‘tight enough to show you’re a woman but loose enough to show you’re a lady’.

15. Dresses to fit in unobtrusively with other people’s events. Especially funerals.

16. Can hold her drink without falling over.

17. Shares a cafe table or train seat with a smile.

18. Doesn’t boast about exotic holidays on social media.

19. Tries not to talk about house prices.

20. Doesn’t attempt to apply full make-up on a packed train.

21. Knows calorie and GI counts, but never speaks of them.

22. Doesn’t shout down her phone in the street or on the train.

23. Knows when to stop talking.

24. Accepts some chaps are embarrassed by remarks about vaginas, etc.

25. Can pay the tab in a restaurant without making it obvious.

26. Gives a 1,000-watt smile to nervous teenage boys, making them feel like kings.

27. Has enough natural authority to make teenagers take their feet off train seats.

28. Does not comment on other women’s weight.

29. On an awful internet date, kindly sticks it out until 10pm . . .

30. . . . but knows how to make it clear, gracefully, that it’s not a goer.

31. Teaches her children manners.

32. Always tells adult godchildren that they are ‘doing absolutely wonderfully’, even when said godchildren are clearly total trainwrecks.

33. Calls policemen ‘Officer’. Even PCSOs.

34. Removes her screaming toddler from a busy cafe with an apologetic smile.

35. Won’t kiss and tell, or compare men’s prowess.

36. Has a flair for wearing hats, but keeps her belly button to herself in public.

37. Deals gracefully with spiders, mice, etc, without screaming.

38. Takes off her stilettos on other people’s parquet floors.

39. Is kind to nervous, inadequate chaps who read lists about how to be a gentleman.

Re: What makes a Lady ?

Not much for us to live up to then ey.

BTW - I reckon you made that last one up.

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Many people swear in upsetting situations. Ladies and gentlemen wouldn't do so for others to hear though. If Lady Wotnot and Baroness Thingumy are foul mouthed in normal conversation, I'd say they are ladies by title only.

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You're right - Lady Muck springs to mind

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Oh Penelope darling, I thought you were the original Lady of the Manor

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I agree
IMO Its less about etiquette money and dress than the kindness and consideration a true lady shows to others.