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Re: Is It Important That You Are Liked?

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I am a very secure person ď nowĒ....I donít need anyone to like me or agree with my posts.

I am very true to myself, I canít be controlled by another.....but have been in the past growing up.

I had to be how my parents wanted me to be, it was very hard, my own mind wasnít allowed to develop as a child growing up,I couldnít answer back and if i did on the rare occasion,I would be rejected, I couldnít stand rejection so went along unknowingly with the conditioning and brainwashing...didnít see it at the time, but did once into adulthood as I explained.

My own mind started developing from around the age of 38....in other words I started seeing and understanding / questioning for myself.

I donít believe I have any insecurities in the ď Being LikedĒ area.
Good for you girl.
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Re: Is It Important That You Are Liked?

To be perfectly honest I really couldn't care less.
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Re: Is It Important That You Are Liked?

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Good for you girl.

Thank you,
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06-04-2021, 09:41 AM
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It's nice to be liked, but life isn't a popularity contest. If they don't like me I have no problem with it.
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06-04-2021, 10:27 AM
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Re: Is It Important That You Are Liked?

Having spent many years with a stepmother who drummed into me that there was nothing about me to like, I grew up disliking everything about myself and couldn't understand why anyone else would like me either.

That has been the case most of my life, I know now that I have the love and respect of my child and grandchildren, nothing and no one else matters
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Re: Is It Important That You Are Liked?

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Having spent many years with a stepmother who drummed into me that there was nothing about me to like, I grew up disliking everything about myself and couldn't understand why anyone else would like me either.

That has been the case most of my life, I know now that I have the love and respect of my child and grandchildren, nothing and no one else matters
Your bonding with your son, reminds me of mine, i wonder if itís to do with, raising them as a single mother, in your case a widow.

Itís like an unbreakable bond that we have, ....a very healthy relationship, I seldom bother him ,because of his business commitments.....but there in a flash if I seriously needed him, like the time of my heart operation in London, he got the wrong information from a nurse, he was led to believe I was having severe complications, he downed tools and was straight to my bedside, by taxi.. he even cried on seeing me....that was a very touching moment for me.
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06-04-2021, 11:01 AM
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Re: Is It Important That You Are Liked?

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To be perfectly honest I really couldn't care less.
Ditto.

As far as I'm concerned the question is up there with worrying about whether or not the neighbours have got a better car or where they're going on holiday, or if your brother-in-law earns more than you do.

It's a pointless concern.
Completely and utterly pointless.
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I don't give a hoot if anyone likes me or not. I am who I am and if you don't like it then stay away from me.
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06-04-2021, 12:33 PM
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Re: Is It Important That You Are Liked?

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I don't give a hoot if anyone likes me or not. I am who I am and if you don't like it then stay away from me.

Like it or not, I like you, Roxy!

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06-04-2021, 12:36 PM
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Re: Is It Important That You Are Liked?

Originally Posted by Tachyon ->
It's nice to be liked, but life isn't a popularity contest. If they don't like me I have no problem with it.

So, if you went for a job interview, you wouldn't make a special attempt to be liked/selected?

i.e. "it's not a competition"

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