Your relationship with your children

I think I am so very fortunate that I have an excellent relationship with my children and grandchildren as does my husband. Obviously it has its serious side, but we can laugh and joke and tease each other, which is great.

It is so sad so many people seem to be at odds with their children, some have even lost contact with them.

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Happily, Tara, my husband and I find ourselves in a similar position to you and I think I can put it down to having mutual respect for each other.

My husband had one brother and one sister. His mum, a lovely gentle woman, made no secret of the fact that she wanted her daughter to have a husband who would look after her every need whilst she hoped her sons would marry women who would do likewise for her boys.

She may not have got exactly what she wanted but accepted everyone for what they had to offer to the family unit.

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My husband and I didn't get on with his parents at all, we were determined to ensure we didn't behave in a way that would make our children hate us. As youngsters we always listened to our children's opinions, and whilst we had the last word when it came to important issues, we took their opinions into account.

For instance, when we decided to adopt a couple of lads with special educational needs, we ask for their opinions, and would have thought twice if they hadn't been keen. However, after it was all explained to them in a way they could grasp the concept, they were all for it and we went ahead.

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I have always had a very close relationship with my son I guess because I was widowed young (he was 6) and brought him up on my own so it was just the two of us .
He did very well building a business from scratch in his bedroom and now lives in a beautiful farmhouse with his wife and 5 children.

I guess all grandparents are proud of their grandchildren, I am very proud of mine and couldn't wish for better, they are a joy to be with .

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My husband's parents had no interest in our children, whilst they doted on those of his much older brother, who could do no wrong in their eyes. They never forgave my husband for being a boy, when they desperately wanted a girl to look after them in their old age!

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I've always had a great relationship with both my son and daughter and I've noticed as the years roll by they are even more caring to both my husband and I. I didn't have that relationship with my own parents and in those days I vowed that I would bring up my children differently. I think I've succeeded.

My grandchildren have been a blessing, we are very close to them and watched then grow up to be lovely teenagers.

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Yeh but my grandkids are better than your grandkids so there

But well done you.

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My daughter is only 14 but we have a very close relationship. Much closer than I ever was with my own mother who I haven't seen for many years. ��

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WE have a very close knit family ,I am glad to say .
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Relationship with my kids?

Well I'm fairly sure that I'm their father!