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Well, the flip-side of that is that you wouldn't be bothered about where they live and I think that is far, far worse. You clearly do love your family so it is understandable that you will be upset.Re: men in uniform
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Yes well, if it were me I wouldn't take to the notion of having 5 kids uprooted for what may be one temporary home after another, how old are the kids? if she doesn't want to go she shouldn't , he should've thought of the consequences when he joined up unless that's the only job he could get?Re: men in uniform
Quite right maggis - with five children and 3 years in the RAF, it sounds as though the RAF came after the marriage. I gave up my home and way of life for the second man I married and I would never ever do it again - biggest mistake of my life. I think that if you have a bad feeling about something you should listen to that feeling.Re: men in uniform
I do feel for you Poppy, not military but we had something similar happen after we had custody of my niece for 4 years, it tears you apart wondering if they are alright. I don't think there is an answer that doesn't hurt. All you can do is be there if they need you keep the lines of communication open, easier these days with computers and mobiles etc.Re: men in uniform
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Make sure she knows there is somewhere for her to come back to if she doesn't like her life there. That's all you can do really. He sounds controlling, those types like to isolate their wives from their families, I hope he isn't.Re: men in uniform
I would have hoped they had discussed postings when he decided to join the RAF as they don't stay in one place.
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