19-01-2021, 04:08 PM
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Re: Living near Family Members
Originally Posted by pauline3
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Do you live near your family members?Is it a good thing?
What are the positives or negatives, living close to them?
The only negative the above entails is that the bank of Mum & Das is always open, but hey, what are parents for
19-01-2021, 04:10 PM
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Fruitcake, it speaks well of you your family the you have such an agreeable setup.
In Hawaii, ohana (family) houses are a common design in which a house has two identical levels top and bottom. That enables one generation to live on top and the other below.
19-01-2021, 04:35 PM
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Re: Living near Family Members
Originally Posted by Surfermom
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Fruitcake, it speaks well of you your family the you have such an agreeable setup. In Hawaii, ohana (family) houses are a common design in which a house has two identical levels top and bottom. That enables one generation to live on top and the other below.
In some cultures, moving elderly parents/grandparents in with their family is the norm, expected even, whereas in others it is sometimes the opposite with people expecting the state to provide.
Of course it is not always possible to provide a home for your parents due to many reasons.
In our case we are lucky to be able to do it. We have the space and the finances to allow us to modify the house. A lot of mobility aids have been provided by the state, but it is still cheaper for the government to support us than it is for the state to pay for a care or nursing home.
The biggest factor though is that we want my Outlaws here, so looked for ways to make it happen rather than find reasons not to do it.
19-01-2021, 04:43 PM
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My daughter lives about 20 mins away but I’ve had no close contact with her since last March when she took us out for a meal on my birthday. Since then she has strictly adhered to the government virus rules so she doesn’t put us at any risk. We just see her very occasionally when she will come and chat with her outside the garden gate. We haven’t been in each others houses in all that time.My son lives in Wales and we haven’t seen him since March either. We chat regularly on the phone though.
My brother lives in Italy and it is years since I last saw him.
I long for the day when things will get back to something like normal.
19-01-2021, 06:46 PM
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I have 2 daughters & a son who all live round me and I like it that way.During the first lock down they all took their turn in shopping for us and seeing that we were alright.
During this lock down they call to see if we're ok & my two girls & Ady & Paula have been going walks with me.
They help us out in numerous situations - from sorting my smartphone out for me to mediating with the neighbours on our behalf.
Once a garage tried to rip us off and Ady & Paula went storming into the managers office demanding fair treatment for us.
We got it too. Paula, bless her, you could knock her over with a feather duster but she was banging her fists and shouting at this man. She is a very special daughter in law - she's very fond of us as we are her.
All my kids are good with Tony (as some of you know he has alzheimer's) & will come to visit him or take him a little walk if I want to go out with friends. I only have to say the word & they're there.
I'm sorry for anybody who doesn't live near their family but I guess it's a matter of adjusting.
19-01-2021, 07:31 PM
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I have never had family living close and I so wish I had . I am from a large family that is separated by many miles and dont bother to stay in contact even though I've tried many times . My sister is 120 miles away but we speak regularly on the phone . She and I are close . The other siblings aren't interested sadly .My son is 75 miles away and my daughter 30 miles . So I have never known what it's like to have close contact . I wish I had
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