Join for free
Page 1 of 4 1 2 3 > Last »
Artangel's Avatar
Artangel
Chatterbox
Artangel is offline
UK
Joined: Oct 2015
Posts: 21,097
Artangel is female  Artangel has posted at least 25 times and has been a member for 3 months or more 
 
19-01-2021, 08:43 PM
1

Do You Think You Can Change People?

When l was younger and going out with someone and they had a few things l didn’t like about them, my mother used to tell me off and say, ‘You can’t change people, it’s how they are’.
Over the years, l understood that she was right, you cannot change people to be how you think they should be.

Do you agree? Was she right that a leopard cannot change its spots.

Maybe, you know different?
pauline3
Chatterbox
pauline3 is offline
Hampshire UK
Joined: Jul 2015
Posts: 10,708
pauline3 is female  pauline3 has posted at least 25 times and has been a member for 3 months or more 
 
19-01-2021, 08:50 PM
2

Re: Do You Think You Can Change People?

Why would I want to change a person,Art?

I can only change myself....not sure what a leopard can’t change its spots, means?
Lion Queen
Chatterbox
Lion Queen is offline
UK
Joined: Mar 2018
Posts: 9,592
Lion Queen is female  Lion Queen has posted at least 25 times and has been a member for 3 months or more 
 
19-01-2021, 08:52 PM
3

Re: Do You Think You Can Change People?

a person can change but it has to be when the person is ready to make that change, change wouldn't happen unless the person wants that change if that makes sense. Personally I would never try to change anyone, it's not my right, people are their own person but nothing wrong with giving a helping hand to try make someone see the error of their ways if they are taking the wrong path.
Surfermom's Avatar
Surfermom
Chatterbox
Surfermom is offline
United States
Joined: Jul 2017
Posts: 6,235
Surfermom is female  Surfermom has posted at least 25 times and has been a member for 3 months or more 
 
19-01-2021, 09:03 PM
4

Re: Do You Think You Can Change People?

I don't think I can change anyone, but I have sure changed a lot over the years!

In some ways those changes have been for the better, but admittedly, in some ways, not so much.
Lindyloo's Avatar
Lindyloo
Senior Member
Lindyloo is offline
isle of wight
Joined: May 2014
Posts: 2,350
Lindyloo is female  Lindyloo has posted at least 25 times and has been a member for 3 months or more 
 
19-01-2021, 09:18 PM
5

Re: Do You Think You Can Change People?

I have also changed a great deal. Getting divorced and having to be independent forces that change but I'm quite proud of the way I've coped. Surprised myself at times but long may it last!
Silver Tabby's Avatar
Silver Tabby
Chatterbox
Silver Tabby is offline
God's own county!
Joined: Oct 2012
Posts: 24,659
Silver Tabby is female  Silver Tabby has posted at least 25 times and has been a member for 3 months or more 
 
19-01-2021, 09:18 PM
6

Re: Do You Think You Can Change People?

Originally Posted by Lion Queen ->
a person can change but it has to be when the person is ready to make that change, change wouldn't happen unless the person wants that change if that makes sense. Personally I would never try to change anyone, it's not my right, people are their own person but nothing wrong with giving a helping hand to try make someone see the error of their ways if they are taking the wrong path.
I would go long with that, LQ. I accept people for who/what they are.
Lindyloo's Avatar
Lindyloo
Senior Member
Lindyloo is offline
isle of wight
Joined: May 2014
Posts: 2,350
Lindyloo is female  Lindyloo has posted at least 25 times and has been a member for 3 months or more 
 
19-01-2021, 09:25 PM
7

Re: Do You Think You Can Change People?

Originally Posted by Silver Tabby ->
I would go long with that, LQ. I accept people for who/what they are.
I think we all try to accept people for who or what they are, but everyone's perception of others is as different as each individual is to the next.
Minx's Avatar
Minx
Chatterbox
Minx is offline
South Africa
Joined: Oct 2020
Posts: 5,908
Minx is female  Minx has posted at least 25 times and has been a member for 3 months or more 
 
19-01-2021, 09:59 PM
8

Re: Do You Think You Can Change People?

No, you cannot change some people.
Tedc's Avatar
Tedc
Senior Member
Tedc is offline
Berkshire, UK
Joined: Aug 2016
Posts: 4,872
Tedc is male  Tedc has posted at least 25 times and has been a member for 3 months or more 
 
19-01-2021, 10:02 PM
9

Re: Do You Think You Can Change People?

I suspect that there are many who will Change to get what they want, and change back when they've got it.

I call it "Politition Mode".


Sometimes referred to as "Wham, Bam, Thank you Maam"

Cynical mode off: Click!
spitfire
Chatterbox
spitfire is offline
Warwickshire
Joined: Jul 2012
Posts: 29,878
spitfire is male  spitfire has posted at least 25 times and has been a member for 3 months or more 
 
19-01-2021, 10:09 PM
10

Re: Do You Think You Can Change People?

Its no ones right to change anyone, who has the perfect perspective?
 
Page 1 of 4 1 2 3 > Last »

Thread Tools


© Copyright 2009, Over50sForum   Contact Us | Over 50s Forum! | Archive | Privacy Statement | Terms of Use | Top

Powered by vBulletin Copyright ©2000 - 2024, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.