Re: "Friends" over family?
A difficult question Annie darlin'. I would think it all hinges on your own attitude to both 'B' and the hostess. If f'r instance, you have a detestation and loathing of what 'B' had done to an extent that it might impinge on your enjoyment of the party, then perhaps you may need to rethink your attendance. On the other hand, how close are you to the hostess of this party??? - if your absence would 'hurt' the hostess and potentially cause a family rift then your attendance is required, but as I've said it is your own attitudes that interplay here and none of us on the forum are qualified to give definitive advice without knowing your family circumstances intimately.Re: "Friends" over family?
Well it's not my family, it's the OH's sister's birthday and I don't see them much at all. He was shocked to find out some of them still consider B to be a friend. It's not a matter of theft or fraud or something. This man admitted to molesting his pre-teen daughter and has baby-sat children of friends. I'm sickened at the thought of it.Re: "Friends" over family?
As it is his sister's party Annie, how does your OH feel about going/not going. I can see now that it is a difficult one and if everyone knows what B has admitted to, I think each person may have to come to their own decision about going and hopefully your OH's sister will understand if some people do not want to see him. I would say you and your OH could perhaps make the decision between you and and if you both decide not to go, let your OH talk it over with his sister.
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