Re: Taking care of aged parents.
I can see from reading your posts that you couldn't have done any more for your Mum, what you can also see is the frustration she felt as things slipped away from her and she couldn't cope, it sounds as though she was finding that hard. It's the scenario we all dread, both for parents and for ourselves.Re: Taking care of aged parents.
Mum had a DNR on her medical records, but that would have only come into action if her heart had stopped, it doesn't make a scrap of difference to whether she went into care or not.Re: Taking care of aged parents.
Reading your post is quite emotional Mups, it was clearly a very difficult time, it's obvious that you cared for your Mum to the absolute best of your ability right up to the day she passed on.Re: Taking care of aged parents.
I cared for my dad in his late years , it was emotional , a large part hated him for what he had done to everyone , then theres a part inside of said , he's your blood and don't belittle myself to his level , but at the same time because the amount of violence he dished out , he had a certain control over me , even though he was old and weak man , everyone that knew him from years ago walk away from him , again don't know why , I couldnt . Even when he was in his late 70s he would have black eyes , cuts and bruises after the fights he would start , because he would go on benders for weeks or months I didn't see him , then out of the blue when he was sober , I get a phone call , the first thing he would say , I had the flu and been rough , would go to his buy him a new set of clothes and a large food shop , then give him a few pounds to get bits and pieces, basically did everything for him , until he started another bender. Not nice to admit but part of me wanted nothing to do with him , and thought I didn't want this controlling situation over my head , now he has died , I do miss him , but I don't miss the package that I had either ,Re: Taking care of aged parents.
Wow Markey, respect for caring for your Father like that in light of what he did in the past and how much you and the family suffered.
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