19-08-2019, 04:01 PM
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Re: Personality not looks
In an ideal world personality should be the primary attraction, I agree. However, in the real world - you're at a party or in a crowded pub. You see a man/woman across the room - can you possibly say "hm, they're plain and ordinary looking but wow! what a personality!" Nobody does that do they? Obviously you're going to be drawn to someone whose face you find attractive and then, hopefully, you will like their personality.All men and women find certain types appealing, it's natural. It might be shallow but that's just the way it is. Unfortunately there are thousands of people who for whatever reason are unattractive to the opposite sex. They may be wonderfully witty and kind, sensitive people, but if nobody wants to get to know them they will be lonely. C'est la vie.
19-08-2019, 04:36 PM
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Re: Personality not looks
Originally Posted by tarantula
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As I have said many times my husband was so different to the other lads I had met, because in all probability he has Asperger's syndrome, which is why I showed an interest in him, when we first met. I never considered his looks. He was interested in me because my lifestyle was very different to his own. We rarely saw each other in person as he lived in the UK and started university there just after we first met. We communicated by phone calls and letters. We only saw each other during holiday times. When we married he worked very hard gaining promotion after promotion and I was in charge of looking after the home and rearing the children.
Yes, I know you have just had your 50th anniversary Tara, but initially that sounded more of a business arrangement if you don't mind me saying.
I believe each one of us will look for different qualities in a prospective partner.
It may be good looks, humour, personality, warmth, kindness - even smell!
We won't ever all agree, simply because different things matter to different people.
There is no right or wrong, it is just a case of what 'turns you on' so to speak.
Good job we don't all like the same, else we'd all be fighting over the same person, and the rest of the world would be lonlely and unloved.
19-08-2019, 04:45 PM
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Re: Personality not looks
Originally Posted by tarantula
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Well if it is it has worked for us.
I know.
But like I said above, we all like different things, which is just as well, for the reasons I have just stated.
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