Re: Re-building trust in a relationship
Being honest and saying you are truly sorry - goes a long wayRe: Re-building trust in a relationship
It could have been my fault. Maybe it was. My husband decided to leave me after 30 years. We'd been together for 33 years. I didn't change who I was, but he moved on to pastures new workwise, and I probably didn't. He mixed with different people. I think I was left behind in the world we previously lived in. Anyway, he decided to leave. He'd formed a "friendship" with someone else and wanted to take it further. At the beginning I would have taken him back in a heartbeat. He'd come and pick my 16 year old son up at the weekends and I'd be sitting, makeup done, nice clothes on. Then break my heart when he left. When I think back now I was always myself. I divorced him and have moved on now. I felt I had the ultimate betrayal and could not rebuild trust. I still cannot believe it all. A huge part of my life was lost, or so it seemed. If he had died it would have been easier for me. Terrible to say, I know. He wasn't a bad man and I forgive him as he deserves happiness too. I sincerely hope he is having a good life. It left me feeling very insecure and distrustful. There are people out there who can try and get trust back, but I now know it would not have been for me.
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