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Yes I agree with being distrustful as being a betrayal that can often be too hard to come back from. I wonder if anyone has been able to move on when their partner did betray then and what helped them to do this? Some people say that it can actually make their relationship stronger in the long-run.. ?

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I can't imagine that as I find it difficult to imagine anyone betraying you in the first place. Their relationship can't have been that strong before, so why would it be after? Maybe others can enlighten you.

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Of course you can "move on". It's just a relationship breaking up, not a matter of life and death such as fleeing a war with my family or trying to cross the Med in a leaky boat. I'm very pragmatic, like millions of people are, so I didn't need any help getting over it, even though it was emotionally painful for a while. You just say your goodbyes, keep drama to a minimum and get on with the rest of your life.

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People say Im weird because I call my dogs my best friends..
What can I say? My dogs are always by my side they offer me comfort in my darkest hours and bring me joy on a daily basis.
They have never lied, cheated, stolen or betrayed me. They have never been hurtful or insulting which is more than I can say for almost any human being Ive ever spent time with.

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Sad reflection but true in a 'lot' of cases ..........

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Not weird in the least. I've had a dog like that. You can trust them more than people.

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That old chestnut.

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Yes, I was thinking the same ...............

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That would be the people who betrayed someone's trust and who are trying to weasel their way back in to the other persons good books. It doesn't fool anyone unless they're desperate - or deluded enough - to believe it.

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Not personally..
Someone I know married very young against her parents wishes, they thought she was too young and her career was just taking off after Uni.
After a year of marriage she moved out of the family home/took a flat/ had an affair with her boss.
It fizzled out after a year and she went home back to her husband.
Twenty years and a number of children later the marriage is strong. I understand the departure and affair was never discussed .
I think the husband was a very wise man , he realised he had pushed for marriage too soon before the girl had time to work out what she really wanted from life and the girl did some growing up.

The husband could have been unforgiving and missed out on having his lovely children and a good relationship.