Re: Friend requests

Half the trouble with these 'friend requests' from people you barely know even, is many recipients feel a little embarrassed at saying - 'No thanks - no offence meant.' So they just accept, even when it means not a darn thing.

I too, have seen requests sent to new members who have hardly been here a week or two, yet get these meaningless invites.

I am convinced that not all people who accept really want to, but they don't like to appear rude so just go along with it.

Re: Friend requests

Quite some while back now I added a few "friends" to my profile. Not friends as such, but people I had engaged in conversation and who I thought might have similar interests. Apart from one person, I have not got any further other than with just accepting or requesting the friendship because (a) I don't feel I want to get too involved and (b) I too couldn't really see what the friendship function hoped to achieve. A lot of the people who are listed as "friends" I have not had any contact with for ages and many of them no longer use the forum. There was one person living in America whose "cyber friendship" I valued on this forum, but sadly she became ill and died. I missed her presence for a while as she was such an asset to the forum - a good sense of humour, patience - and always with something interesting to say. We did message each other regularly, but I have never felt inclined to become quite as friendly with another person (as yet).

Re: Friend requests

Recently I found myself booted out of certain peoples friends lists, no idea why. It puzzled me at the time and it also made me go and look carefully at my own list. Most of the people I had in it were no longer on the forum, so I had a big clear out. I only have six in my list now. All members I get on fine with and a couple I chat with regularly about all sorts of things.

Re: Friend requests

I must be really daft,,, what harm is it to add someone on your friend list...
That person just might be lonely and need someone to talk too ...
I say yes to anyone that wants to be my friend …
If they get rude .. I delete them , no big deal ..
Easy come easy go …
This way there is no harm ..
Maybe a bit of compassion can go a long way ...
After all there is no such thing as stranger only friends you haven't met ...

Re: Friend requests

I agree with you for a change, Sugar. There really is no harm.

Re: Friend requests

I guess some of my list of friends have left.
I often go to my list if I want to PM them, only to ask if they are OK.
I think it is quite nice to have a friends list.
Also I sometimes send one if I like a newbie, from their posts. They have no PMs to start, it just let's them know I like their style.

Re: Friend requests

Well there is always an exception … Like you Mr Ploppy ,
I asked what harm .. there are days I asked myself why did I accept Mr Ploppy as a friend lol ..
The answer: because I am blinking stupid that why lol ...

Re: Friend requests

I agree again,Sugar.

Re: Friend requests

If you have to ask to be a friend there's summit wrong

Always amused me (when I was experimenting with FB) that some people claimed 200 or 300 or even 500 odd 'friends' absolute rubbish, I bet they couldn't remember anywhere near that number. Zuckerberg and his phoney mates have used the internet to make them money and the morons are flocking like sheep to his site. Good luck to them.

Be very careful of anyone Julie who asks to be your friend even if you have exchanged a few messages with them.

Re: Friend requests

Hey You are now off my friends list …