06-09-2010, 10:30 AM
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Elder care
My husband and I have made it quite clear to our children that when the time comes for us to need care we will go into a home. We would not expect them to look after us. However, well you get on with your kids, and we get on very well with ours, looking after elderly parents in your own home is likely to put a strain on relationships, especially when you are not in the first flush of youth yourselves. Well that is the way we see it, I know others will view it differently. My father, now dead, booked himself into a nursing home when he realised he was terminally ill in 2005, less hassle than having my mother giving him earache!
Our mother (86) still lives in her own apartment, cares for herself, and even still drives (God help us!). My youngest sibling has a watching brief and power of attorney. When the time comes, a nursing home will take the considerable strain of caring for her, although to be honest we hope death intervenes before that is necessary for all concerned, including our mother. That might seem a shocking think to say, but 10 minutes in her company and sadly even a saint would feel like murder! I should add my mother is well provided for and can afford the best of care homes.When your time comes would you wish your children to care for you, or will you go into a home?
06-09-2010, 12:30 PM
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Re: Elder care
Originally Posted by claireandaisy
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No I don`t want to go into a home. I get infuriated when patronised and old people (like me) bore me rigid. I looked after my children when they were young. Why shouldn`t they look after me if necessary?
06-09-2010, 01:05 PM
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Re: Elder care
My two agreed long ago to push me into Poole Quay.Seriously though, I would not allow my children to look after me full time, just the odd bit of shopping and what have you. If things got too bad then I would have to go into a home I suppose. I wouldn't like it but would prefer that than for my children to care for me, they have enough on their plates as it is.
06-09-2010, 01:23 PM
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Re: Elder care
Originally Posted by maryl
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My two agreed long ago to push me into Poole Quay. Seriously though, I would not allow my children to look after me full time, just the odd bit of shopping and what have you. If things got too bad then I would have to go into a home I suppose. I wouldn't like it but would prefer that than for my children to care for me, they have enough on their plates as it is.
06-09-2010, 03:29 PM
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Re: Elder care
Originally Posted by maryl
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Good job we know our kids love us then eh Qitta?
06-09-2010, 03:41 PM
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Re: Elder care
Originally Posted by maryl
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Then you'd better keep as sane as you can
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