Re: My Dad has cancer and my Mum is forgetful

Really sorry to hear that your father has passed away.
I would also suggested grief counselling , you barely had time to get to grips with his diagnoses and now your are having to deal with his death soon very soon.

As others have said be gentle with yourself and dont try to 'be brave 'or strong just be yourself and take the time you need.
Your mum may take a while for things to really sink in so it might be worth talking to the doctor to see if there is any help ready for her as and when she does need it.

Once again my condolences..

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My condolences. It is so hard losing people we love. I hope that as time passes you will all find things easier to bear.

Re: My Dad has cancer and my Mum is forgetful

First I am so sorry to hear your news.Do not give up hope,a lot is being done with Cancer ,Im surprised if they send your Dad home with no treatment,they usually try something.Most important look after yourself,as said try to find out more from your Dads medical team, will he let you go with him to see his consultant ?Speak to your own Dr he/she may be able to offer some advice ,and should be made aware of the stress you are under

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So sorry for your loss, Elbee. Lots of good advice from members here.

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The funeral is today.
I believe around 40 or 50 are coming which demonstrates how much he touched so many lives.

At the end of the service, if every has cried and everyone has laughed, I think my Dad will have had the funeral send off he would have wanted. It is the last thing I can do for him now.

Mum is bearing up really well. I need to see my doctor on Friday and have to leave her on her own for 24 hours.
I hope she can remember I AM coming back.

My brother and his family are going away on
holiday on Friday for 14 days, hence the rushed funeral.

I've looked into counselling and to be honest it doesn't offer anything I haven't already found online.

I take comfort that his suffering was over quick. He knew he wasn't going to get better and saved us all weeks of seeing him suffer. He was very brave and very courageous.
I just wish he got better (some!!) care at home when he got out of hospital. The only time he did was when I kicked off at his GPs. That negligent bastard should be struck off. But Dad didn't complain he just got on with it, wanting to be at home with my Mum right up to the last 36 hours.

Rest in peace Dad. I know you are watching and I hope you have to wait many years before Mum joins you.

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My thoughts will be with you today, Phil...

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Thank you.
It was a lovely funeral just what Dad would have wanted.
Lots of old friends and family re connecting after many years lot of laughter as well as tears.
Mum has been a rock throughout.

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So sorry Elbee I didnt realise your Dad had died when I posted .I hope counselling will help you.My thoughts are with you having lost many relatives myself