Planning your own funeral

As you know, ma Dad died a week ago and I took on planning his funeral. All he left was a wish for tow hymns, an independent undertaker (not part of a large chain like coop or Dignity) and "I'm forever blowing bubbles" played and sung, at the end. He was a West Ham fan.

I intend to plan my funeral. I don't think it is morbid because it will save those left behind all the upset.
Preferred undertaker, coffin, no flowers but charity donation, venue etc.
Songs, hymns, bible reading, poems.
I even intend to write my own Eulogy as a starting block. The one person who knows me best is me.
And where I want my ashes scattered.

Sort of thoughtful 'till the end!
Anyone else done this?

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Yep all planned poems chosen , music sorted, instructions left for the cards the flowers the lot!

Plus before it gets that far I have a end of life directive in place , treatment I will or wont accept and the moment at which life support is to be ended,

My life means my life and my choice.

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Chosen three songs but nothing more, only that I wish to be buried. My executor sister told me not to bother buying a funeral plan, it can be paid for out of my estate when the time comes.

I do need to make them aware though, that I want a humanist one, not religious.

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Yes mine is all planned and my kids know my wishes.
I don't see why I should pay for it though. I'd rather spend the money now.
The cost can come out of the estate.

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I don’t care what happens after I’ve gone. They can do what they like. I won’t 'mind'. I won’t exist.

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Me too all sorted . I don't have funeral plan like the others it can come out of the sale of house . I'm starting to spend my savings too bit by bit on nice holidays now and again .

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My mum chose her's, after getting over the initial trauma(within a month)of being told she had weeks to live...it was her way of taking some control of her life, what was remaining.....almost two years later she's still here and, like most women()has changed her mind on more than one occasion....

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I have asked for black horses and The Rose by Better Midler .
But at the end of the day I don't really care cos I will be dead !

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Eeeee...a woman after my own heart! Me too.

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I need to get on with this, I started, then stopped and need to get back to it again.

I know it is silly, but I found it quite depressing, I cannot imagine my own death, I don't want to go, but I ought to sort it, I know.

Something else to add to my job list.