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I would be very upset if that happened to me Julie.
If she didn't like the quilt she could have packed it away in a drawer or loft.
I don't think it was nice of her to tell you what she's done.
I wouldn't say anything though, let the husband deal with it, he will probably point out how unfeeling she is when he finds out

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FWIW I think it was extremely inconsiderate to throw something away that is so personal to him, without asking him. Whenever I have read of husbands or wives throwing stuff away that belonged to their other half, without permision or knowledge, just think that they have had absolutely no right to do so!

Yes Julie, I can well understand you are feeling hurt. I would be too.

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I’d be hurt.

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Another take on this.
We see our grand girls maybe a few times a year. They make things for us, paint pictures we hang on the walls. I hate to think how they would feel if we discarded them.

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I would explain to her exactly what she had done and what the quilts mean to you all. But that's me, if I don't get it out I'd explode.

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Aww, Julie, I sympathise with you. I would feel particularly hurt too if I learned an in-law had done the same to something that had been made with such love and tender care by me for a family member on a special occasion.
It would have been far better (but not right still) if she had said nothing at all, rather than risk hurting your feelings.

I have the most beautiful, cream crochet bedspread that my sister-in-law made as a wedding gift for us all those years ago. It is so heavy that it is impossible to wash myself, I only put it on the bed in wintertime from December to March, then it goes to the dry cleaners, into a vacuum pack and into the bed drawer until the next year.
I absolutely love and treasure it. and one day will pass it on to one of my DIL's. Whether she treasures it as much as I do is anyone's guess, but I will make a point of letter her know how much it means to me before handing it over.

I'm really sorry you have been upset over this, perfectly understandable on your part, I'm sure she would be mortified if she knew how much though.
Best to forgive and forget. It's done now.

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Aw Julie - you have every right to be hurt & angry.

I really think the eldest should be told about this straight away and made to realise how hurt you are.

Try to get it back if you can & keep it yourself!
(assuming it's gone to a charity shop & not the tip)

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Totally understandable that you would feel as you do. It has sentimental value and was quite insensitive of her to not to consider your feelings in this. I.d ask what she did with it and try get it back if at all possible. Personally I wouldn't kick up a fuss as it could cause a rift and you have enough to deal with Julie without the stress of worry of a family fall out.

I.m really sorry for you, such a lot of thought and hard work obviously went into it. I hope you can get it back xx

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Oh thank you everyone at least I don't feel I am making a fuss about nothing, having said that I won't be making a fuss it's not mine hasn't been since I gave it away. I have no idea if eldest knows about it he's over seas and I wouldn't want to upset him while he's away nor cause trouble between him and his wife. She's not a bad young woman this is first time she's done anything to make me think she's not an angel, so I will keep my hurt to myself.

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It may not be too late to retrieve it, talk to her. Also when your son does find out, it could cause all sorts of trouble. She may not stop there and do a blitz on everything she doesn't care for.