08-11-2018, 03:35 PM
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Re: Attention seeking people
Originally Posted by Meg
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When training puppies you ignore bad behaviour and don't reward it with attention. I tend to do the same with attention seeking humans these days . I am afraid I don't agree with that Bratti
I joined our sister site 'Dogweb' many years ago not to 'seek attention' but having spent almost a lifetime working with and owning dogs to try to help and advise other less experienced owners. Many of us there joined for the same reason.This site was set up as a kind of extension to our sister sites, as a place where people could chat and share common interests not as a platform for attention seekers .
Originally Posted by Mups
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Sorry Julie (and Bratti), but I can't connect with that idea at all. 
I really don't see what chatting to friends for a bit of company, plus some humour, and even interesting threads, has to do with being an "Attention seeker?"
I honestly don't think I seek attention, and never have, in fact I'm pretty quiet in 'real life'.
I just enjoy a bit of company sometimes.
08-11-2018, 04:03 PM
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Re: Attention seeking people
since I joined this site I have found about 3 people mainly women who are attention seekers -yes we get them on sites they dont do harm but can become tedious ' maybe its loneliness which gives them so much front ' but as someone said we all look for attention just being on here -
08-11-2018, 04:23 PM
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Re: Attention seeking people
Originally Posted by Mups
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Sorry Julie (and Bratti), but I can't connect with that idea at all. I really don't see what chatting to friends for a bit of company, plus some humour, and even interesting threads, has to do with being an "Attention seeker?"
I honestly don't think I seek attention, and never have, in fact I'm pretty quiet in 'real life'.
I just enjoy a bit of company sometimes.
08-11-2018, 04:24 PM
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Re: Attention seeking people
I think the term "Attention seeking" is a derogatory term and should only be used as a criticism.....but people seek attention for many reasons.1) People who are lonely seek attention......so doesn't that make those who ignore them uncaring?
2) Some may be a bit loud.....but wouldn't it be more friendly to explain that people would be more likely to listen if they spoke more quietly?
3) Some may want to be noticed..... but if we don't find out why they need that aren't we being unfriendly?
There are many reasons that people may be called "attention seeking" but wouldn't it be kinder to find out why they need that attention, before we label them?
I no longer follow a religion, but I do still remember that Christianity taught us to be kind & understanding... and I always try to be......... just in case their situation isn't their fault.
08-11-2018, 04:35 PM
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Re: Attention seeking people
Originally Posted by Meg
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When training puppies you ignore bad behaviour and don't reward it with attention. I tend to do the same with attention seeking humans these days . I am afraid I don't agree with that Bratti
I joined our sister site 'Dogweb' many years ago not to 'seek attention' but having spent almost a lifetime working with and owning dogs to try to help and advise other less experienced owners. Many of us there joined for the same reason.This site was set up as a kind of extension to our sister sites, as a place where people could chat and share common interests not as a platform for attention seekers .
I come to the forum for several reasons, for a laugh, to support my long time forum friend Dreamy, as I always have, play the games, and a natter.
08-11-2018, 04:39 PM
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Re: Attention seeking people
Originally Posted by Longdogs
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I think people put up with them for a time but eventually ignore them. It's much easier that way. There is a difference between seeking a bit of attention and being disruptive or nasty.
Originally Posted by May
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Rentagobs?...I give 'em a body swerve and a withering dirty look..that'll teach 'em to out-sing/out-talk Moi...cheek! 
Originally Posted by Maddy
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since I joined this site I have found about 3 people mainly women who are attention seekers -yes we get them on sites they dont do harm but can become tedious ' maybe its loneliness which gives them so much front ' but as someone said we all look for attention just being on here -
Originally Posted by Twink55
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I think the term "Attention seeking" is a derogatory term and should only be used as a criticism.....but people seek attention for many reasons.1) People who are lonely seek attention......so doesn't that make those who ignore them uncaring?
2) Some may be a bit loud.....but wouldn't it be more friendly to explain that people would be more likely to listen if they spoke more quietly?
3) Some may want to be noticed..... but if we don't find out why they need that aren't we being unfriendly?
There are many reasons that people may be called "attention seeking" but wouldn't it be kinder to find out why they need that attention, before we label them?
I no longer follow a religion, but I do still remember that Christianity taught us to be kind & understanding... and I always try to be......... just in case their situation isn't their fault.
08-11-2018, 04:43 PM
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Re: Attention seeking people
Originally Posted by Twink55
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I think the term "Attention seeking" is a derogatory term and should only be used as a criticism.....but people seek attention for many reasons.1) People who are lonely seek attention......so doesn't that make those who ignore them uncaring?
2) Some may be a bit loud.....but wouldn't it be more friendly to explain that people would be more likely to listen if they spoke more quietly?
3) Some may want to be noticed..... but if we don't find out why they need that aren't we being unfriendly?
There are many reasons that people may be called "attention seeking" but wouldn't it be kinder to find out why they need that attention, before we label them?
I no longer follow a religion, but I do still remember that Christianity taught us to be kind & understanding... and I always try to be......... just in case their situation isn't their fault.
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