08-11-2018, 04:43 PM
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Re: Attention seeking people
Originally Posted by Twink55
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I think the term "Attention seeking" is a derogatory term and should only be used as a criticism.....but people seek attention for many reasons.1) People who are lonely seek attention......so doesn't that make those who ignore them uncaring?
2) Some may be a bit loud.....but wouldn't it be more friendly to explain that people would be more likely to listen if they spoke more quietly?
3) Some may want to be noticed..... but if we don't find out why they need that aren't we being unfriendly?
There are many reasons that people may be called "attention seeking" but wouldn't it be kinder to find out why they need that attention, before we label them?
I no longer follow a religion, but I do still remember that Christianity taught us to be kind & understanding... and I always try to be......... just in case their situation isn't their fault.
People choose to come to a site to share company of others for whatever reason they have. It doesn’t have to be turned into something negative. I sincerely doubt that people are only here for other people’s enjoyment. Most people do things because it makes them feel good. If this was a forum where members could only post but couldn’t interact, then I don’t think it would be as much fun or as popular. I also don’t think enjoying the company of others is such a negative thing but it certainly IS two sided.
Perhaps it’s just the term we don’t like. Would we be happier with stating that people use a forum to ‘interact with others’ and some are better at doing it than others?
08-11-2018, 04:45 PM
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Re: Attention seeking people
Originally Posted by Julie1962
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I wasn't seeing it as a derogatory term when I said we all do it on forums. I spend ages alone at times, the forum gives me someone to chat to and that is really what I meant.
But I can understand that some may view it as such .
08-11-2018, 04:49 PM
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Re: Attention seeking people
I have a friend, she is older than me, I have known her for years.Recently she has changed. If there is a conversation with a group of us, she has far worse health issues, if someone is happy about something, she has done better, my other friends give me wide-eyed looks. I can only think this is attention seeking, she often answers questions for others, before they get a chance. This is plain bad manners, but I have tried dropping hints.
It does not make her popular.
08-11-2018, 04:51 PM
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Re: Attention seeking people
Originally Posted by Bratti
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What a great post Twink. I completely agree. ‘Attention seeker’ can be viewed as a very derogatory term. People choose to come to a site to share company of others for whatever reason they have. It doesn’t have to be turned into something negative. I sincerely doubt that people are only here for other people’s enjoyment. Most people do things because it makes them feel good. If this was a forum where members could only post but couldn’t interact, then I don’t think it would be as much fun or as popular. I also don’t think enjoying the company of others is such a negative thing but it certainly IS two sided.
Perhaps it’s just the term we don’t like. Would we be happier with stating that people use a forum to ‘interact with others’ and some are better at doing it than others?
08-11-2018, 04:52 PM
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Re: Attention seeking people
Originally Posted by Bratti
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Ok perhaps I am
08-11-2018, 04:55 PM
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Re: Attention seeking people
Originally Posted by Longdogs
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I like that.
08-11-2018, 04:58 PM
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Re: Attention seeking people
Bratti.I think trying to figure out “‘why’ people do what they do” is enough to drive anyone nuts. We don’t always have to analyze people and wonder why they do things. That’s enough to drive anyone nuts. I think people in general do things the way they do because it works for them. If it didn’t work for them then they would stop doing it.
The best thing to do, in my opinion; (not that I’m any better at dealing with it) is to either accept them as is , or ignore them.
We can’t go around changing people to suite our own needs and wants nor can we throw them in a room and lock the door.
Besides which I think we are all attention seekers to a certain extent or we wouldn’t be here on a community site talking to others. It’s not an insult. Just a logical fact to consider.[/QUOTE]
Excellent post Bratti!.
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