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Sit down - glass of wine and talk it through with her x

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She just lost her mother.

Could be she's scared she might lose her dad to this 'new woman'.

Like someone said earlier in the thread, we don't have all the facts.

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I think one has to be blunt about this. It is up to the individuals involved, it’s hard to say how we would handle something like this unless we were involved ourselves, but we must not be selfish and give our kids every consideration, after all they will be here long after we’ve gone. All I know is that if I was 10 years younger and God forbid my wife died and I was considering taking up with another woman my daughter would not be very happy about it, neither would my son, I understand that because I’d put meself in their shoes and think about how I would feel if my own father was doing the same, i would not like it one bit, a strange woman taking over the running of the family house, having access to all the personal family stuff, and perhaps we should have to call her mother to keep our dad happy. I’ve seen this happen many times and it always causes trouble, never really works out.
Having said that another woman would be the very last thing on my mind, God knows one is enough for any man to handle in a lifetime. of course there are men who can’t live without a woman in their lives, good luck to them they’ll be needing it. I never get lonely even when the wife is away, I like me own company and never fall out with meself, I’ve done all I wanted to do on this earth and now all I need is peace and quiet, you won’t get that hitching up with another woman, the kids falling out with you, and spending the rest of your days finding out what annoys you most about her and her about you.

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I was widowed in March this year, my husband was not my childrens father but a great step-father and granddad. I am 57 and all 3 of my kids have said that if I meet someone else and I am ready to move forward they would be pleased for me. They understand that for most humans being on their own is not the 'norm' and they want me to be happy

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Can only say when my dad died my mum was only 49 and I would have loved for her to find someone else to care for her, we're all different and maybe the girl in TessA's post is selfish or maybe just insecure and needs her dad herself, still.


Or it could be the inheritance thing mentioned by May..

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We never will be, but if it was someone you knew how do you think he should deal with it?

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Tessa
Firstly I would ask him why he thought that and I would suggest he talk things through with the daughter.

Other than that it is difficult to make suggestions without knowing the circumstances.

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Mum died , she was 70 , a year later dad met a lady , they each stayed in each others homes , we were happy for him . They had 7 years together till dad died. We welcomed her into our life's . She lives alone now and still wears his shoes to do the gardening .

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I just wanted to say that your kids sound very understanding and caring. You should be very proud of them

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Some men are so needy .
They don't seem to be able to cope on their own .