I can appreciate someone who is good looking but I agree, it's not the be all and end all and I think sexiness is something to do with body language as Jem says.

That's interesting Jem. I once dated a girl for a while who wasn't my type and not obviously good looking. About 20 years later, I was given an old photograph of my late grandmother when she was a young woman - she looked just like her.

I tend to go for men that look like my dad!!
Oooh, l hope that doesn't sound bad or incestuous?!!

Even if married, happily or otherwise we are can be attracted to someone else.
Some years ago we knew a Professional married man who we saw about 4 times a year. He was charming Irish man.
On first meeting my heart actually jumped
He was very polite, as was I, But his eyes gave him away as the enlarged considerably.

I was careful not to show my feelings, especially with a jealous natured husband around
And, when I stood next to him heat from his body would enter my body which was unusual
We were very seldom alone together and he never made any advances, except, when shaking hands, when his hand would linger on mine.
I always had a rule from being a teenager , that married men were out of bounds.

He then moved away and we saw less of him
I actually dreamed about him one night too
The one day my husband pointed out a death in the Paper , I was our friend who at 6o years and had always looked healthy and went swimming and to the Gym daily was struck down by Leukaemia.

I tried not to show it, but I was in shock and cried when I was alone.
My husband wondered why I was so quiet.

There was no way I could attend his funeral as it was miles away, and his wife did not know me.

This Thread brought it all back , so I Googled his name, and there was a very nice photo of him, which I have now have downloaded it,. …..No jealous husband around now.

Thanks for sharing that Azure.

As a plumber, I obviously visited many households. On meeting one particular woman, the attraction was instant. We spent about an hour talking absolute rubbish because neither could get our brains in gear. The atmosphere was electric. Nothing happened but it did mentally if you know what I mean.

I Googled his name, and there was a very nice photo of him, which I have now have downloaded it,. …..No jealous husband around now.

Surely, LD, that was just having a great rapport?!!

Are we allowed to see the pic ?